Is this a pedophile comment or not??

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I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?
 

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I certainly don't take it to suggest he is a pedophile. I take it as the comment of a concerned parent (you said he has a daughter as well) who wants to see little girls be in modesty and appropriate clothing - in his view, as I suspect those are his reasons, and I can understand it. He clearly thinks legging on young girls is a bit to risque, or maybe he just doesn't like leggings. Either way, not dirty or anything, just his opinion.
 
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I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?

I think when he is a dad he's giving his personal opinion about leggings. I'd think there is something off about women who would imagine a pedophile is a worthy charge against a dad who does not approve of leggings in lieu of pants on a little girl.
 
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Sometimes on those mom forums the members tend to jump on the bandwagon (from past experiences on a few of those boards).

Trust your gut about the guy. His comment was nothing dirty.

Make sure your daughter knows about healthy boundaries. :thumbsup:


I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?
 
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From what you have said, the answer is No, he's not a pedophile.
Sounds like a man who wants to see little girls decently covered.
I'm feel the same way.

IMHO....there's a right way and a wrong way to wear leggings--
I've seen far too many little girls and ladies wearing them the
wrong way.

Leggings are too thin and don't hold up to rough playing and
I've seen too many little girls who have ripped the rear areas
of their leggings and they don't have on a longer tunic or blouse
that covers their derrières.

There was a time when females wouldn't wear clothing that resembled "hooker wear"...
the ones who wore that gear were hookers.
 
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Mom's in packs who don't think beyond the pack mentality. Shudder!
Sometimes on those mom forums the members tend to jump on the bandwagon (from past experiences on a few of those boards).

Trust your gut about the guy. His comment was nothing dirty.

Make sure your daughter knows about healthy boundaries. :thumbsup:
 
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Hyper-sensitive gang mentality. With all our "forensic" TV viewing people start to see a devil behind every bush. If a pattern in word or speech is revealing a corrupted thought life then caution is needed.This seems innocent.

I would REALLY like to know who got the ball rolling here. It would be interesting to look in to what's happening in THEIR life.
 
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The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?

This is a case of people blowing something out of proportion if I've ever seen it. My dad would make a Chicken Heart That Ate Chicago reference on something like this. I shudder to think of how these moms would act at a meeting discussing school dress code. Any male that has an opinion would be crucified.
 
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Hm, up here in snow country, leggings means thick padded snow covering -- the opposite of immodesty. So my first reaction was that he didn't think women should wear slacks but only dresses -- which either sounds old fashioned (was he 90?) or pervy.

http://www.coresportswears.com/products/revised-winter-pant.jpg

But seeing that you mean thick tights cut off at the ankles, I'd consider these more modest than bare legs or stockings/tights. Except people tend to trust them too much and sometimes wear shorter dresses with them. And it sounds like he meant with a shirt, which I agree with.

Gang mentality, yes... they might not have noticed they were doing that.
 
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I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?

Wow, Okay. I don't see any proof or disproof of pedophilia here. Having an opinion about clothes or modesty isn't a commentary on his sexuality :| I think girls shouldn't wear hot-pants, that doesn't make a lesbian. Unless there's other behavior, there's nothing here to make a judgment call.

He probably doesn't want to encourage his children to wear clothes that he thinks are either impractical or inappropriate whether now or when she hits puberty. He may want to instill modesty early on and doesn't want to cause confusion or conflict when she suddenly isn't allowed to wear certain clothes. And like most people with an opinion they think has merit, he's sharing it.

He may also just be concerned or overprotective because of all the talk of pedophiles and sexual violence from young boys. So he thinks young girls should dress modestly because of the deviant behavior of others. Maybe he or his wife or someone they know have been victimized so he is more conservative about dress code than the average mom.

There are internet sources you can research for red flags for pedophilia or child abuse, if you're ever concerned.
 
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...Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?

yes: God can tell you, and He's the only one who knows for sure. if you perceived a 'check' when he made his comment, it might be the Lord's leading about the man (not necessarily that he is a pedophile, but that the Lord wants to minister to him through you somehow); if the check came when the other moms went off about his comment, it might have been the Lord's leading about their reaction.

ask God and expect to hear His answer
 
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I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?
Hi, Life to Christ :) I am Bill . . . nice to see you and meet you . . . God bless you :)

I notice you have the "Catholic" logo. If you are sharing among Catholic moms, may be there is some pedophilia-phobia going on there, which has people over-think and mis-react. And you mark yourself as "talkative" > may be you can let things talk too much in your mind. Ones can think and talk too hastily.

Yes, there are pedophile predators who are married, possibly in order to maintain a "supply" of ones they can use. So, it is needed, that we become able to tell the difference. As we have tragically seen, even seminary trained and years-experienced religious leaders have not been able to tell the difference.

But if we make sure with God . . . any of us can tell the difference. Those mothers possibly were able to "gang" together, without making any real evaluation > this is how people of religious groups can be > just copy-catting each other, going along with whoever the leader or ringleader is. So, such mothers could be at high risk of being fooled as a group by a real predator.

My opinion is that if a man were a pedophile, he could tend to welcome children wearing clothing which would leave their legs showing, and clothing which would "imitate" how hot women dress. To my knowledge, there are mothers who dress their children in ways that are poetic with how older women dress in order to attract attention. They do this intentionally. But other mothers may not be trying to dress their kids in a "sexual" way, but they are copy-catting what others have made popular.

I suspect that there are pedophile people behind the scenes of child fashion and how children are presented in movies and on TV. And surely some mom in a group could be a ringleader promoting scanty dress codes so she can eyeball other mothers' children. And she could accuse that man of what she is really guilty of, herself!

So, "Test all things; hold fast what is good." (1 Thessalonians 5:21)

Do not just conform and go along with whoever acts like he or she is the big shot.

If mothers attacked this man, possibly they are in denial about how they have been dressing their kids.


But . . . while there are pedophiles who would welcome seeing children barely dressed, I understand there can be other pedophiles who can feel guilt and shame and therefore not feel right about being allowed to look at a lightly dressed child; and so a guilty feeling pedophile might encourage modest dress.

So, each person is unique. Only God knows. Make sure with God. Have faith, trust our Father to personally communicate with you.

There are predators, by the way, who have claimed their victims were acting "seductively". Well, a little child might be copy-catting how she saw a woman acting with a man. The child, of course, would not have a clue what it meant. But an evil person can see things the way he wants them to be, welcoming the child's behavior as an excuse. And a predator can blend in to seem the same as everyday people. Some number of religious people use their religious acting as their own camouflage, and a predator can put on the same act so they trust him.

So, Jesus says, "'Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.'" (John 7:24)

Ones have evaluated pastoral candidates by their acting and talking, and so predators have put on the act they know religious leaders are looking for, and they have been able to pass themselves off to be even pastors . . . but only because ones of religious culture were judging them by superficial standards which any actor can put on.

So, if these women were making such a conclusion only by what is showing, they are at risk of fooling themselves into trusting such an evil person and not knowing the difference!

But Jesus takes care of His sheep > John 10:1-30 > even His "sheep" (not only His leaders) can tell the difference. A sheep can smell if someone is really living God's love or putting on a show.
 
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I post on a mom message board and all the responses I got accused this man of being a pedophile.

My 7 year old daughter is in school with another little girl whose dad I am friendly with. The dad, who is a very sweet man, made a comment to me that he did not think that putting leggings on little girls (as pants) was appropriate. Everybody on the mom forum had a field day and said that I am befriending a dirty pedofile and that I was naive.

The moms said that if a man saw something wrong with leggings then there is simething wrong with him.

Can somebody tell me if there something inherently wrong with his comment?

That's ridiculous. He's got a daughter of his own. It's not as if he's out oogling everybody else's kids. And I happen to agree with him! The other moms on the forum need to get their undies untwisted and shut up.
 
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A man who advocates for modesty for someone elses daughter may be presumed to enforce the same dress code for his own.

Whereas a pedophile would not advocate for modesty in the least. Leggings would get them hot being they're sin is so deeply entrenched. A pedophile would not advocate modesty in those he targets for his perverse attraction.
 
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A man who advocates for modesty for someone elses daughter may be presumed to enforce the same dress code for his own.

Whereas a pedophile would not advocate for modesty in the least. Leggings would get them hot being they're sin is so deeply entrenched. A pedophile would not advocate modesty in those he targets for his perverse attraction.
 
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FTR not all pedophiles get off on girls dressed like grown women (aka 'sexy'); many of them actually prefer girls dressed like innocent little girls. The allure is the appearance of innocence and youth. Don't assume that just because a girl is dressed modestly that she won't be the object of someone's unwanted attention. Just wanted to add that.
 
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