Hi, and thank you for reading this.
I just typed out a detailed post and timed out, so I will try to be brief this time.
I was in an abusive relationship for years. He eventually left me for someone he met online. I was depressed and thought I would not find myself in a relationship again.
A year ago in church, I met my current boyfriend. He was smart, charming, and reminded me of everything I wanted to be in a Christian. But my issues from my past relationship have made me very difficult to deal with. Even though there is no evidence that he will treat me like my ex, I still have believed and expected the same treatment. Now, I am seeing how they are a lot alike.
A couple months ago, I started having health problems. My current boyfriend did not support me, even when I was in the hospital. A few weeks ago I had a heart attack. He yelled at me on the phone the very day it happened, and has since avoided me. He even told me once he thought I was pretending. I have not seen him since it happened (his choice). My family has been unhappy with this behavior, but I am sure I am to blame. He gets angry with me for speaking bad about him though I don't say bad things, people just notice his presence is missing.
Since my heart attack I have changed a lot. I read the Bible more often, I have songs in my heart, I have not committed any of the private sins that have plagued me for years.
This weekend, his family is coming into town. He invited me to come.
My family believes he is only doing so so that I do the driving, pay the expenses, and because I have a car (his may still be currently disabled). I desperately want to believe this is not the case. My parents said they will be disappointed in me if I do this for him, and an sibling had a bad dream about me going and has begged me to stay home.
I care greatly for this man. I do not want to be the reason he doesn't see his family. I think he will leave for good if I do not do this for him. I said this weekend was important, I wanted to see him for weeks, and this gives me a reason to spend time with him on the day I want to and actually see him at all.
With the negative feedback from my family, I am not sure what I should do. Can anyone please give any advice?
Thank you and God Bless.
I just typed out a detailed post and timed out, so I will try to be brief this time.
I was in an abusive relationship for years. He eventually left me for someone he met online. I was depressed and thought I would not find myself in a relationship again.
A year ago in church, I met my current boyfriend. He was smart, charming, and reminded me of everything I wanted to be in a Christian. But my issues from my past relationship have made me very difficult to deal with. Even though there is no evidence that he will treat me like my ex, I still have believed and expected the same treatment. Now, I am seeing how they are a lot alike.
A couple months ago, I started having health problems. My current boyfriend did not support me, even when I was in the hospital. A few weeks ago I had a heart attack. He yelled at me on the phone the very day it happened, and has since avoided me. He even told me once he thought I was pretending. I have not seen him since it happened (his choice). My family has been unhappy with this behavior, but I am sure I am to blame. He gets angry with me for speaking bad about him though I don't say bad things, people just notice his presence is missing.
Since my heart attack I have changed a lot. I read the Bible more often, I have songs in my heart, I have not committed any of the private sins that have plagued me for years.
This weekend, his family is coming into town. He invited me to come.
My family believes he is only doing so so that I do the driving, pay the expenses, and because I have a car (his may still be currently disabled). I desperately want to believe this is not the case. My parents said they will be disappointed in me if I do this for him, and an sibling had a bad dream about me going and has begged me to stay home.
I care greatly for this man. I do not want to be the reason he doesn't see his family. I think he will leave for good if I do not do this for him. I said this weekend was important, I wanted to see him for weeks, and this gives me a reason to spend time with him on the day I want to and actually see him at all.
With the negative feedback from my family, I am not sure what I should do. Can anyone please give any advice?
Thank you and God Bless.