What has worked well for you to meet Christian Singles of the opposite sex ?

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I am very curious to know if someone has found a good source for making new Christian Friends of the opposite sex ?

If you are a Christian Single, do you find it easier or harder to find a potential dating Partner now that you are in your 50's or 60's ?

Also, HOW lenient are you when it comes to Christian disciplines or lack thereof, in the other person ?

If you would like to comment on a relative issue in this thread, that would be nice also. Thanks for sharing .
 
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I am very curious to know if someone has found a good source for making new Christian Friends of the opposite sex ?

If you are a Christian Single, do you find it easier or harder to find a potential dating Partner now that you are in your 50's or 60's ?

Also, HOW lenient are you when it comes to Christian disciplines or lack thereof, in the other person ?

If you would like to comment on a relative issue in this thread, that would be nice also. Thanks for sharing .

1. CF is a lovely place to meet new Christian friends of both genders.

2. I am single and find it to be much easier to find a potential dating partner now.

3. I never have been lenient with myself or with others, which probably explains why I am still single.
 
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1. CF is a lovely place to meet new Christian friends of both genders.

2. I am single and find it to be much easier to find a potential dating partner now.

3. I never have been lenient with myself or with others, which probably explains why I am still single.

Thanks for replying. What sources outside of CF have you found suitable and productive for meeting singles of the opposite sex who are Christian ?
 
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I am very curious to know if someone has found a good source for making new Christian Friends of the opposite sex ?

If you are a Christian Single, do you find it easier or harder to find a potential dating Partner now that you are in your 50's or 60's ?

Also, HOW lenient are you when it comes to Christian disciplines or lack thereof, in the other person ?

If you would like to comment on a relative issue in this thread, that would be nice also. Thanks for sharing .

It is not wise to make close friends with the opposite sex. Keep it superficial by being a nice acquaintance. If your a man and you tell this female friend your personal problems I guarantee all her relatives, friends and facebook buddies will here every detail.
A great way to meet future spouse is online christian dating sites. They do work. I found my wife through one of them. We are very happy.
 
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.............It is not wise to make close friends with the opposite sex. Keep it superficial by being a nice acquaintance. If your a man and you tell this female friend your personal problems I guarantee all her relatives, friends and facebook buddies will here every detail.
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1. Then, before you married your wife from an online Christian dating site (as you indicated) , you didnt become close friends first ?

2. Doesnt ANY sort of an acquaintenceship, friendship, relationship run the risk of subsequent gossip resulting ?

3. Doesnt NOT making close friends with the opposite sex sort of fly in the face of what God thinks is vital for our lives on earth ?

4. Are you basing your subjective opinion based on some trust-busting scenarios that have occured in the past ?

Thanks for elaborating more.
 
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1. Then, before you married your wife from an online Christian dating site (as you indicated) , you didnt become close friends first ?

2. Doesnt ANY sort of an acquaintenceship, friendship, relationship run the risk of subsequent gossip resulting ?

3. Doesnt NOT making close friends with the opposite sex sort of fly in the face of what God thinks is vital for our lives on earth ?

4. Are you basing your subjective opinion based on some trust-busting scenarios that have occured in the past ?

Thanks for elaborating more.

Of course, I was looking for a spouse and she was too. Intentions are to marry and the relationship moves toward a courtship then a deep friendship w resulted quickly.
If you want to keep your marriage intact avoid close friendships with opposite sex. I would not appreciate my wife being that close to another man.
also, as a single person getting to close can give a wrong signal and the spouse or girl or boy friend of that person may not appreciate it either.
As Christians we need to be aware of attacks from the enemy, temptations, appearances of evil, etc. As a pastor needs to avoid one-on-one travel, appointments, certain words etc. with the opposite sex to avoid possible trouble. Ask any prominent minister.
I'm not saying totally avoid the opposite sex or avoid friendship all together just use some common sense on your words, time, place etc.
 
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Of course, I was looking for a spouse and she was too. Intentions are to marry and the relationship moves toward a courtship then a deep friendship w resulted quickly............


Ive heard of some people doing it this way and with great success. Im so glad it worked out well for you both. Personally though, it seems that its a bit misplaced in that : Youve already established a Courtship with Marriage as the expectation, before youve even known the Person deeply ; I supposed you can break off the Courtship at any time but it would seem to me that at that point GREAT expectations and dreams have materialized vis-a-vis trip to the Alter .

I see nothing wrong with two people revealing their desire or lack of desire for Marriage on the first date or thru initial online contact , to see if that compatibility exists. Perhaps its just a matter of semantics here (?)
 
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Ive heard of some people doing it this way and with great success. Im so glad it worked out well for you both. Personally though, it seems that its a bit misplaced in that : Youve already established a Courtship with Marriage as the expectation, before youve even known the Person deeply ; I supposed you can break off the Courtship at any time but it would seem to me that at that point GREAT expectations and dreams have materialized vis-a-vis trip to the Alter .

I see nothing wrong with two people revealing their desire or lack of desire for Marriage on the first date or thru initial online contact , to see if that compatibility exists. Perhaps its just a matter of semantics here (?)

yes...at our age we didn't waste time. The favor of God was on us and we knew it was right at the start. We did IM and email for a long time before first contact to make sure. What help us the most was are maturity in the faith that pull us close, God was in our midst.
 
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yes...at our age we didn't waste time. The favor of God was on us and we knew it was right at the start. We did IM and email for a long time before first contact to make sure. What help us the most was are maturity in the faith that pull us close, God was in our midst.

So then, there were plenty of confirmations from the H.S. as you moved forward from your intial contact , emailing, and in person meetings ? How long was it till you met in person ... and how long was it after that till you got married ? Thanks for sharing.
 
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So then, there were plenty of confirmations from the H.S. as you moved forward from your intial contact , emailing, and in person meetings ? How long was it till you met in person ... and how long was it after that till you got married ? Thanks for sharing.

About 5 weeks we had first meeting then
3 months we were married
 
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About 5 weeks we had first meeting then
3 months we were married

With that very short time duration, both would have to know that they are getting clearcut confirmations from the Lord to move ahead for marriage . Ordinarily, I would say that the time period you mentioned is a recipe for a very risky lifelong commitment. But im glad it worked out well for you both and i trust you have a successful good working Marriage .
 
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I was a member of both Match and Harmony at the same time for 5 years with nothing resulting. I was just a member recently of Christian Mingle (3 months) and nothing. No one wants anyone with "baggage" and even though I manage very well, I am disabled...and seemingly no one on those sites is interested. I was thinking of trying a disabled-person site next--if I try anything again.

I've been alone for 20 years. Guess I'll be ok.
 
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I was a member of both Match and Harmony at the same time for 5 years with nothing resulting. I was just a member recently of Christian Mingle (3 months) and nothing. No one wants anyone with "baggage" and even though I manage very well, I am disabled...and seemingly no one on those sites is interested. I was thinking of trying a disabled-person site next--if I try anything again.

I've been alone for 20 years. Guess I'll be ok.

It's hard when you are disabled, I had 2 strokes but able to do things on my own but the opposite sex just don't give you a chance according to my other single divorce friends.
I am separated and divorce is pending but one day hope I find the right person who accepts me for who I am.
I need to focus on myself as I am a very new convert to Christianity from Islam and my marriage was an arranged marriage in fact the first time I met him was on the wedding day, looking back now that was a mistake.
Getting to know someone even distance relationships are good in a way because you get to have the feel of the person and when ready it would be an exciting time to meet for the first time. I regret marrying as an arranged marriage, we are two different people and he never will never accept my conversion and he said that he cannot be married to someone who had 2 strokes even though I am doing the best I can.
 
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I was a member of both Match and Harmony at the same time for 5 years with nothing resulting. I was just a member recently of Christian Mingle (3 months) and nothing. No one wants anyone with "baggage" and even though I manage very well, I am disabled...and seemingly no one on those sites is interested. I was thinking of trying a disabled-person site next--if I try anything again.

I've been alone for 20 years. Guess I'll be ok.

We all have the freedom to decide how much 'baggage' we are willing to entertain in Another..and we all come with some. Ive made up a list of 'cannot haves' when considering a romantic one on one committed relationship... and a somewhat varying 'cannot have' list for those i choose to be Friends only with . I think applying objectivity to who we allow in our lives is a good thing , and id rather be patient and on my own than enter into some sort of a toxic Friendship or Relationship simply because i yearn for companionship as a Christian Single. Thats where a deep dynamic personal relationship with Christ becomes so satisfying because it eliminates a state of desperation and hence, is a good place to be coming from.
 
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