So if someone we know (or don't know) is robbing people in a parking garage we arent supposed to speak up? This requires judging their actions and saying hey thats wrong he needs to be stopped. From how I understand it we are not to judge by appearance, we are not to judge hypocritically, we are not to judge self righteously nor are we supposed to judge where someone stands with God. Saying " this person is playing with fire and it may blow up in his face" is not a bad thing.
Good clarification. I've been meaning to correct an old post of mine that people might have misunderstood.
Is the pastor inviting her with a group, or one by one inviting parishioners to the house? And is he there while they are, or are they borrowing it to get away? Maybe the woman has a violent husband, and doesn't feel her son is safe when he's home.
These days, many pastors keep their office door open when meeting with a person of the opposite gender.
It's a generous gesture, but I also think it could offend people who don't have much money or are unemployed, to know their pastor has a vacation house. It also makes uninvited members feel they do not rate his approval of being in the church's inner circle. Or if he leads retreats there, people might wonder if cultishness is forming. Trouble one way or another.
Be careful that gossip doesn't distort the pure truth. If he is trying to protect her from violence by letter her use the property, and people spread misinformation, the husband might hear the wrong information and overreact. Gossip could endanger multiple people. Also, the woman could turn on the pastor and accuse him of a crime. Or sue him for injuries on the property... tripping on the front doorstep.
And all this brings us back to the fact that it is a risky gesture, that can easily be misinterpreted, lead to temptation, and lead to trouble.