I am a woman. I hope I am welcome in this thread. Of course I read the title
but I do have a question for the mature men who would like to jump in and answer. I say mature men because I am not on this thread to stir anyone up. I just read it and the comments and I wanted to kinda throw my question out there. Ok so here it goes. A lot of the men have stated that it is requiring lusting to touch wrong or not is not my point right now. But I am very curious that is it really that hard not to walk by a woman and get a lustful thought, really? Actually that was not the question the question is if you are with your wife having sex making love are you needing having lustful thoughts still? I read some of you said the lustful thoughts are of your wife but really? Can a man honestly not make love to even his wife without having lustful thoughts? Yes I am married. Have been for 21 years. And yes I have asked him before and he says no this is not true. But here I read it on this thread and I wanted to clarify that most the men on here are staying they need lustful thoughts to make love to own wife? I guess I'm confused at to what a lot of you men are calling lustful thoughts?
Hi. Welcome. God WANTS marrieds to lust for one another and only for one another ; its the only time when lust is condoned and permitted by God . God wants two married people to find joy in the sexual experience and that ranges from initial lusting for ones spouse all the way to climax and beyond culminating in great emotional and physical closeness after both are satisfied. Sex is designed to cement two people closer together.
Where it becomes a challenge for ALL men, married or not,...is when a particular situation suddenly arrives where a man is directly looking what he percieves as a very physically attractive (subjective among men) female and often the age of the female is irrelevant ; at THAT moment he has two options : 1. Continue admiring her outward attractiveness and allowing his Mind to go further such as wondering what she looks like underneath her clothing / what it would be like making love to her / what it would be like with her performing a sex act on him ....or..... 2. admitting to himself that the woman is attractive then taking ACTION to prevent himself from moving to lust. This can be accomplished by immediately turning his head away from her, praying for her , walking away , and/or remembering He has been blessed with having an awesome wife ---- any action to difuse the situation is good.
Is it possible for a man to walk by a nice looking woman without lusting ? Yes, it sure is possible and occurs often. Are men weak in this area ? Yes we are because God made us with a very strong appeal toward the physical whether it be body to body or sight to body, plus , male sexuality is heightened thru the contant barrage of sexual images from our sexually illicit culture that makes big money off of it .
WHen are men more often to fall into the trap of lust : When theyve had a blowout with their wife/g-f , when they feel unappreciated by their wife/g-f , when they have gone a long time without sexual release , when a woman is dressed (over-) provactively , when a woman makes sexually suggestive talk, when a woman possibly a co-worker are in constant close contact with one another and they become TOO familiar with one another on an emotional level , and others. Billy Graham is quoted as saying :' I will not even share an elevator ride with just me and another woman ' --- that may seem a bit overboard but its what Billy needed to do in order to STAY emotionally pure to his wife and pure to God.
Just for the record, lust is EVERY MANS battle including your husband, your male Doctor, your male Gardener , your male teenage Son, or your male pet Bunny Rabbit .
I hope that gave you some insight.