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Please pray for my 24-year-old daughter, who has been addicted to heroin and has a compulsion to take things that aren't hers.

A praise is that she is clean right now.

A worry is that a former classmate from high school now accuses her of stealing from her. Our daughter claims she hasn't seen this classmate for two months.

Another worry is that our daughter now says she is in love with a 45-year-old man who is on probation for attempted robbery and suffers from bipolar disorder.

Our daughter has suffered from depression since high school. She takes an antidepressant, plus a medicine to keep her from craving opiates.

My husband (her father) and I never know what to believe and how much to hope. She's a beautiful and brilliant young woman, and we just hoped for the best for her--and still do.

I've felt so down all day, as if I'm grieving dreams for her that may not come true. My DH says he feels the same way.

I wish I could just feel thankful that she's clean and in love with someone who loves her back, but I'm so worried about the accusation and that she's going to end up in jail or just keep stealing, if that is what she has done. (Some of the people she has associated with over the last few years also lie, though, so our hope is that this classmate is lying.)

Thank you so much for your prayers. We love her so much but really don't know what we can do besides pray. :prayer:
 

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Thank you, Saved. :) Your prayers mean a lot. I believe in prayer, but these days, I'm just not sure what to pray for. Now I'm worried that God has answered my prayer that my daughter would find someone wonderful to love and be loved by (a heartfelt prayer said after attending a wedding last weekend that left me feeling all "romantic" ;) about future sons-in-law and all that). A man 20 years her senior wasn't exactly what I had in mind! It still doesn't seem quite right to me and her dad.

I'm still worried about the accusation from the classmate, but I'm just praying that people treat each other with kindness, whatever the situation may be, and that God protects my daughter from false accusations. If she has done something wrong, though, I pray she quickly makes amends.

But I hope and PRAY she hasn't done anything wrong.

I don't know what to think, but I've made it through another day and I am okay.

We celebrated my mother's 91st birthday today, so I had something happy to think about! :)
 
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Thank you, Rebecca. I will pray for you and yours, too.

My daughter just found out that she's pregnant, too. She's so happy about it, and it's wonderful to see her so happy and glowing, even though the circumstances aren't ideal.

Now our prayer is that she can withdraw from the medicine that keeps her from craving opiates and have a healthy pregnancy.

So much to pray about for both of us!

A Scripture I think about sometimes is John 1:5: "The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it."

In some translations, "overcome" is "understood" or "comprehend." It seems like grew up with this one, though, and I love it because it's so comforting.

I will hold onto it! :crossrc:
 
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Babies are such a blessing! Praise God! Have you heard of the Tenboom sisters? Beside and Corrie? Here's their story: Belgium WWII. They were Christians and hid Jews in their home, got caught, and were sent to Ravensbrooke concentration camp. God provided them with a Bible, "even in the depths of hello" their barracks were infested with fleas and lice. In their first night there, Beside was giving thanks to the Lord for all of their small blessings, blankets, the Bible, being toge ther etc. but when she prayed for the nazis, Corrie got angry. She relented though when Beside reminded her to love her enemies. As Betsie continued to pray she even give God praise for the fleas, and Corrie had enough. "God does not expect me to be grateful for fleas" well, sometime later they found out that the only reason they had thier other blessings was because the SS officers wouldn't enter the barracks . because of the fleas. The moral of the story is "There is no pit so deep that he is not deeper still."The book and movie is called The Hiding Place. don't forget just like the Casting Crowns song says "The voice of truth tells me a different story, and the voice of truth says do not be afraid, and the voice of truth, says this is for My glory. out of all the voices calling out to me, I will choose to listen and believe the voice of truth."
 
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There is always hope, humble yourself before almighty God and pray without ceasing. I was a drug addict and have been clean for nearly two years and it is the doing of my Savior because I was beyond hope. If someone told me I could have the ultimate high but I would have to immediately trade my life for it I would have done it without a second thought that's how much drugs meant to me. There were concerned parties who prayed for me and they prompted my savior to save me and give me a better life than I had before the drugs. I known addicts in the shape I was in back then I don't know them anymore because they aren't, that's the depth my Savior rescued me from. Anyone can be rescued a lot of people just don't have enough good Christian people praying for them.

I hope everything I said was encouraging I said a couple of sad things not to bring anybody down just to show how far we can be lifted up. I have some pretty unique insights into addiction as well I wont share them in a forum because that are unconventional and I don't want to draw silly critisism, I only want to say these things if they can be useful to someone. One thing to always remember is you can't save the addict if you are a loved one they are already masters of manipulating you but they can't manipulate Jesus.
 
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Snowfam, no apologies necessary! I love to hear stories like yours, because you give me so much hope! Praise God for your new life!

At only 24, my daughter has lost several friends to drugs, too, and it has been very heartbreaking for her. One of them was a young man who used to visit our house as a teenager, and another was the son of an incredibly sweet woman I met a few years ago through a mutual friend. Still another was not just her friend but the son of my mother-in-law's hair stylist--that is, my daughter's grandmother's hairstylist. This is how small the world is and how far the heartbreak reaches.

Although my daughter says she is an agnostic now, she is blessed to have several wonderful Christians praying for her. I see the effects of those prayers every day.

God bless you, Snowfam! So happy for your life.
 
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No, that's okay, Snowfam! Thank you for your prayers. Thanks to everyone who saw my post.

We have more news. She is pregnant with TWINS and is absolutely elated. I have to admit that so are we (my husband, younger daughter and I, although son and middle child is skeptical). It's hard not be excited about babies, even if they arrive unexpectedly AND in pairs. :clap:

Our older daughter is healthy right now, for which I praise the Lord. And today her psychiatrist agreed to put her on a safer form of a medicine.

Right now, we have so much to be thankful for.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. :clap:

I will keep praying for everyone, too.
 
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There is always hope, humble yourself before almighty God and pray without ceasing. I was a drug addict and have been clean for nearly two years and it is the doing of my Savior because I was beyond hope. If someone told me I could have the ultimate high but I would have to immediately trade my life for it I would have done it without a second thought that's how much drugs meant to me. There were concerned parties who prayed for me and they prompted my savior to save me and give me a better life than I had before the drugs. I known addicts in the shape I was in back then I don't know them anymore because they aren't, that's the depth my Savior rescued me from. Anyone can be rescued a lot of people just don't have enough good Christian people praying for them.

I hope everything I said was encouraging I said a couple of sad things not to bring anybody down just to show how far we can be lifted up. I have some pretty unique insights into addiction as well I wont share them in a forum because that are unconventional and I don't want to draw silly critisism, I only want to say these things if they can be useful to someone. One thing to always remember is you can't save the addict if you are a loved one they are already masters of manipulating you but they can't manipulate Jesus.

Thank you snowfarm.
 
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No, that's okay, Snowfam! Thank you for your prayers. Thanks to everyone who saw my post.

We have more news. She is pregnant with TWINS and is absolutely elated. I have to admit that so are we (my husband, younger daughter and I, although son and middle child is skeptical). It's hard not be excited about babies, even if they arrive unexpectedly AND in pairs. :clap:

Our older daughter is healthy right now, for which I praise the Lord. And today her psychiatrist agreed to put her on a safer form of a medicine.

Right now, we have so much to be thankful for.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. :clap:

I will keep praying for everyone, too.

wow!

I will continue to pray for your daughter!
 
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I'll keep her in my prayers, and sending warm thoughts your and her way. I hope that your daughter can become clean, and find her life in repair and renewal, I've known someone who died from drugs and was so heartbreaking and sad. I hope she can see the beauty in the world and have a much needed reality check on her life, and no more harm.
 
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Dear people, thank you for all your prayers since I first posted. I was re-reading all the posts, and it made me realize how much the Lord has done for my daughter and our family since I first posted. I saw her just today, and she looked beautiful and healthy. She even has a part-time job now (I pray it lasts as long as she is able to keep it up).

I had a little setback tonight, emotionally. Sometimes, I think I have a very, very mild form of PTSD. I certainly would never compare my symptoms with those of a soldier or a victim of violence, so I can't call it PTSD. I just relive my feelings over her addiction sometimes, so I relive the fear even now, when we're so looking forward to those grand babies!

She hasn't lived at home for, gosh, 1 1/2 years. We really haven't done much to her room--just vacuumed it and let the occasional guest sleep in it. I've been in the closet to get things or hang things up.

Tonight, my husband and I were home alone (our younger daughter and son were not here, either) and I went into her closet to see if I could find something really warm to wear tomorrow, since it's supposed to be super-cold. Some of her clothes are still here. Well, I found two or three syringes in cubbies where some old hats are stored. I searched a little more and found another in a drawer.

I know these are from way back. I know she's fine now and has been for almost a year, but seeing these just set my emotions back. I showed them to my husband and he broke them and threw them in the trash. He assured me that everything's fine now, but I still feel myself reliving that awful period of our lives. I can't believe that I really believed she never used here.

My only explanation as to why we never searched before is that this whole addiction just wore us out. Often, we felt we were just doing well to get through the days and keep our other kids on the right path. We were also working, and I was also helping my mother (still am). Finding these made realize how exhausted and lacking in hope my husband and I must have been. Why didn't we do a thorough search much earlier? We knew she had had a problem. I guess we must have gotten to the point where we couldn't take any more bad news!

I know she is fine now and that she has a new purpose--her babies--and has developed a whole new way of seeing things because of her pregnancy. I am so thankful--beyond thankful, really! But as the dust starts to settle I can see how this has affected me, and it isn't all good. On one hand, I have really felt God's love; on the other hand, I still walk around afraid sometimes. I wonder how long things will remind me of the bad times. Is this normal?

Thank you for all your prayers. God bless you all.

One more thing: The other reason I wonder whether there is kind of PTSD-Lite going on in my family is that our younger daughter, who is incredibly well-adjusted and usually pretty happy (thank you, God!), has been having some depression and is talking to a counselor. She is 17. I remind her of all our family has been through in the last few years, but she claims it isn't that. I wonder, though. I pray she will come through this and start feeling good. Kids these days have so much to worry about, it seems.
 
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