Why are people so obsessed with being skinny ?

[K9_Trainer]

The topic of being overweight is sorta like religion. It gets put on a pedestal as something that should get automatic respect, and don't dare say anything negative or critical lest you offend somebody.

Yet, nobody here cares about the crap that skinny people actually have to go through. There's zero sensitivity towards any insecurities a thin person might have; they're told to shut up and quit complaining because they're "perfect". Thin people are asked point blunt if they are anorexic or if they ever eat. Thin people sometimes find themselves with a total stranger wrapping their hands around their waist going "OH MY GOSH YOU'RE SO TINY".

Another thing I feel compelled to mention is that people are not being shallow when they prefer not to date an overweight person. Being overweight isn't like being blonde, or having hazel eyes. It's a significant indication of lifestyle. Not just the life style lived to become overweight, but the life style lived as a result of it if the weight actually is from health problems. It doesn't mean somebody doesn't have overweight friends that they care about deeply, or that they can't see a person's true character or heart through the weight. It means there is an irreconcilable conflict between the way two people live if one is fit and active and participates in sports or physical activities and the other can hardly walk up a hill without needing a break.

 

[darktipper]

Why do people get mad at preferences? Some people like big people some like small people.... Being a healthy weight is important not for your partner but for "you"
I am slim but not grossly thin and people tell me that I need to eat. If I told them that I just ate a half of a pizza they would never believe me. I feel no pressure to give into what other people say about me this day and age. In highschool yeah but after I graduated eons ago, I stopped caring lol. You can't please everyone. If you can't take a flight of stairs and you have 0 health issues and you are not elderly or mega young like a toddler then exercise is needed. It is not about being skinny it is more about being healthy and life or death. People tend to not take action until the doctor tells them that they are about to die.....

As far as attractiveness and weight.... Women like thinner guys also. If he has muscles then that is the icing on the cake. This is just from my personal experience.

I don't fully see why people are being hurt by this thread. I don't see on full on bashing. Then preferences turning bashing? Man I now I am almost reminded why I sometimes dislike coming on christian sites or be around some due to arguments. If this thread was on another christian site I used to be on, this thread would be done and banning left and right. It made me change my view on christians Bedtime. Me

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Yet, nobody here cares about the crap that skinny people actually have to go through. There's zero sensitivity towards any insecurities a thin person might have; they're told to shut up and quit complaining because they're "perfect". Thin people are asked point blunt if they are anorexic or if they ever eat. Thin people sometimes find themselves with a total stranger wrapping their hands around their waist going "OH MY GOSH YOU'RE SO TINY".

Yep I got that reaction from time to time. Some got mad and was like you better look like a bodybuilder always working out etc. I also had good compliments. A woman told me that to her I was a 10/10. She was like you are hot, kind, and other things. I have friends who are larger and of women who used to be skinny but now they are not. I do not bash them or talk about them like that.

 

[Tink]

I would like to add that I don't generally say "you're so tiny" or anything similar to thin women unless they are saying "I need to lose weight." If they say they need to tone up, okay. Just...if you're really thin already and saying you need to lose weight, you don't need to.

 

[darktipper]

Funny thing is that a few years ago a woman that I was dating told me that I needed to tone up when she was bigger than I was. I thought nothing of her comment. I just brushed it off. I was already beginning to workout but never told her. At the time I guess that she wanted me to be one of those rock hard guys in a magazine. At the time I was not. I was barely 200 pounds. If I told her that she needed to tone up then she would have dumped me in an instant or yelled at me (i know that she lied about her weight. I think that she was near 210 at the time at 5ft 4 inches). I know people are sensitive about that stuff but I did not care about her size but as long as she was healthy. I think that she tried to compare herself to the women in the magazines but people don't realize that photoshop and pills and other things play a role in gaining that look. Some people put in hard work and can still get that look. Same goes for weight lifters. Some use steroids and diet pills with cardio and diet changes to get a certain look. Some have to work even harder to get that look without cheating but of course they will not be as big.

 

[Wren]

Don't think I could handle the accents.

Our voices are lovely. Lovely, I say!

Why do people get mad at preferences?

At least 3 people here (including myself) have said that we don't have a problem with preferences and only want overweight people to be treated with respect and not disgust, like any human should be treated.

 

[Wren]

The topic of being overweight is sorta like religion. It gets put on a pedestal as something that should get automatic respect, and don't dare say anything negative or critical lest you offend somebody.

Yet, nobody here cares about the crap that skinny people actually have to go through. There's zero sensitivity towards any insecurities a thin person might have; they're told to shut up and quit complaining because they're "perfect". Thin people are asked point blunt if they are anorexic or if they ever eat. Thin people sometimes find themselves with a total stranger wrapping their hands around their waist going "OH MY GOSH YOU'RE SO TINY".

Another thing I feel compelled to mention is that people are not being shallow when they prefer not to date an overweight person. Being overweight isn't like being blonde, or having hazel eyes. It's a significant indication of lifestyle. Not just the life style lived to become overweight, but the life style lived as a result of it if the weight actually is from health problems. It doesn't mean somebody doesn't have overweight friends that they care about deeply, or that they can't see a person's true character or heart through the weight. It means there is an irreconcilable conflict between the way two people live if one is fit and active and participates in sports or physical activities and the other can hardly walk up a hill without needing a break.

I guess you missed my earlier posts. I don't put overweight people on a pedestal, I just think that people should be treated with respect regardless of their size and a little empathy/understanding towards others is usually a good thing.

I'm not overweight really or thin. I'm just average and would like to lose 15lbs. And while I have talked about how awful society is towards bigger women because of personal experience, as I have said earlier, I do understand that society doesn't stop being asses* when you lose weight.

*"asses" is used as donkeys not butts, which is permissible according to CF rules

 

[SweetDee]

Our voices are lovely. Lovely, I say!



At least 3 people here (including myself) have said that we don't have a problem with preferences and only want overweight people to be treated with respect and not disgust, like any human should be treated.

I guess you missed my earlier posts. I don't put overweight people on a pedestal, I just think that people should be treated with respect regardless of their size and a little empathy/understanding towards others is usually a good thing.

I'm not overweight really or thin. I'm just average and would like to lose 15lbs. And while I have talked about how awful society is towards bigger women because of personal experience, as I have said earlier, I do understand that society doesn't stop being asses* when you lose weight.

*"asses" is used as donkeys not butts, which is permissible according to CF rules

QFT. This thread has run it's course. And it needs to just die out now.

 

[Obzocky]

Yet, nobody here cares about the crap that skinny people actually have to go through. There's zero sensitivity towards any insecurities a thin person might have; they're told to shut up and quit complaining because they're "perfect". Thin people are asked point blunt if they are anorexic or if they ever eat. Thin people sometimes find themselves with a total stranger wrapping their hands around their waist going "OH MY GOSH YOU'RE SO TINY".
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Within this thread that is not true, at least not of everyone. There have been a few people who have mentioned that acting in such a manner is inappropriate regardless of how a person looks.

Historia said it best:

>> I don't put overweight people on a pedestal, I just think that people should be treated with respect regardless of their size and a little empathy/understanding towards others is usually a good thing.

 

[Philothei]

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Why are people so obsessed with being skinny ? ​

It not that serious. There are more impt things in life than looks . Today ,I was in the store shopping and one girl was complaining about how fat she is ,and she is like a size 2. Nemerous of studies has shown that men perfer women with curves.

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[ulu]

Why are people so obsessed with being skinny ?

the more attractive you are, the more self centered you can get away with being, and the more power you have. Most prefer thin to fat

 

[Blank123]

people who are obsessed with size, whether its focused on being uber skinny or "having curves" or the extreme of wanting to be obese (those people exist too) have their priorities mixed up. More people should be concerned with simply having a healthy weight for their body type. Outside of that let others opinions fall where they may.

 

[IndieVisible]

It not that serious. There are more impt things in life than looks . Today ,I was in the store shopping and one girl was complaining about how fat she is ,and she is like a size 2. Nemerous of studies has shown that men perfer women with curves.

This seems like a odd question when you consider most Americans are seriously over weight. WHy are so many people obsessed with being fat?

 

[SweetDee]

Why won't this thread just die?

 

[Blank123]

the thread cannot be killed. Its like Freddy Kruger. Or cockroaches. It just keeps coming back

 

[septemberskies]

It's hard to get a date if you're not a size 6

 

[Irrkunst]

Fat people are harder to kidnap but easier to rob because the skinny ones can run away faster. Seems about even to me.

 

[Sunset2009]

OK, to set the record straight, whoever said that "most women only want body builder type bodies" is totally uninformed. Most women are grossed out by the body builder type of body, to be completely honest. Yes, we're attracted to nice chests and nice arm muscles, but 8-packs look gross. Yes, lots of my girlfriends will talk up 8-packs, but at the end of the day, do they turn down every guy that comes their way unless he has an 8, or 6-pack? Absolutely not. I know NO woman who demands her man have a certain body type. Women aren't shallow like men. (OH yeah, I went there.) So anyway, whoever said that, needs to not say that anymore. 8-packs are gross. Now, would I turn down a guy with an 8-pack? No. But I definitely do not require one.

Guys on the other hand? Man, I know some men who will ONLY date skinny, skinny girls. Like, I didn't think they existed, but I've met them. It doesn't matter that these girls can't run a quarter of a mile to save their life, and only eats garbage. It doesn't matter that the size 8 girl is much healthier, jogs every day, eats well, etc. Whatev, men. Y'all are weird.

People (women, esp.) are obsessed with being skinny because they think that's the only way the men will like them. And more men are probably going to be attracted to her if she's skinny. But the men who call out from their cars and whistle from across the street, are going to do that whether you're a size 2 or a size 12, they're pervs, and in the end all that matters is the person you end up with who loves you because of who you are.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Having preferences when it comes to weight/body type doesn't make somebody shallow. If a guy only wants to date a thin woman because that's what he finds attractive, so what? It doesn't mean he's not also looking at personality. If the physical attraction isn't there, it's not there. Shallow is considering ONLY appearance and not personality. If a guy is dating a girl because she's hot even though he doesn't really get along with her or like her personality, THAT'S shallow, and yes, there are guys out there like that. There are enough women in the world to find one with both a compatible personality AND the preferred body type.

But saying that men are shallow is nothing more than a broad, sweeping generalization that is an insult to the good men in the world. And women are not innocent from being shallow either. Some women are shallow too, and women also have standards for what they will or won't date when it comes to appearance.

 

[Keri]

Another thing I feel compelled to mention is that people are not being shallow when they prefer not to date an overweight person. Being overweight isn't like being blonde, or having hazel eyes. It's a significant indication of lifestyle. Not just the life style lived to become overweight, but the life style lived as a result of it if the weight actually is from health problems. It doesn't mean somebody doesn't have overweight friends that they care about deeply, or that they can't see a person's true character or heart through the weight. It means there is an irreconcilable conflict between the way two people live if one is fit and active and participates in sports or physical activities and the other can hardly walk up a hill without needing a break.

Just as you hate being lumped into an anorexic category, I hate being wrapped up into a lazy, unfit, fat person category. Just as there are many levels of "thin" (naturally thin, anorexic, tall & thin bone structure) there are many levels of "fat".

I'm not one of those fat people who can't walk up a hill without needing a break. I swim, hike, longboard(skateboard), bike, etc. I can run after my 2 year old nephew and not get winded. I can jog across a store to grab something that I forgot. I enjoy walking/jogging on the trails around here. Yet because of my size, I'm lumped into this category of being unfit. Here's an example. My brother, mother and I decided to go on a walk on a biking/walking trail around here. It's about 5 miles roundtrip. I decided to longboard. We get down to the beach and I pick up my longboard after riding it the whole way there, and I walk across the street with it. This truckful of teenage boys say loudly to each other, "Dude, I'd love to see that fat girl ride that longboard." and then "Yeah man, there's no way she can ride that thing." Traffic was too loud to reply back and frankly they didn't even deserve a reply. My point is that fat does NOT equal unfit in all cases. Just as very thin does not equal an eating disorder in all cases.

I've never been tiny, I will never be tiny. Even when I played basketball in high school and ran 5 miles a day I was never tiny. But as my current trainer has told me, I don't have to be small, as long as I'm fit.

I'm not just saying that I'm fit, I've actually been tested. I had to pass a physical agility testing (similar to what cadets in police academies go through, I was working in a maximum security setting) in order to work at a prison hospital. They told me before I even tried that I wasn't going to be able to pass because of my weight. But they said they'd let me "try" anyway. (Thanks?) And you know what? I passed, first try. The doctor and nurses had to leave the room to discuss what just happened because I was the first female at my weight to pass this test in the history of them giving it there. So yes, I've been medically declared physically fit.

Anyway, just as you don't appreciate generalizations, neither do I.

Picture of me after reaching the top of Bishop Peak.

 

[Blank123]

indeed. I know people who would be considered overweight. they can have the right diets, do the right exercise, be physically in shape, but they still have the weight. Its quite insulting to those people to generalize them as lazy or as people who do not take care of themselves.

nor does being thin mean that the person is in good shape.

honestly Keri - you're probably... no. you ARE doing better than me. with my health and busy schedule, I just don't have time and often the energy/feeling well enough to work out. I eat right, but I'm not fit. I am a strong girl, i get comments all the time about how other women wish they were tall and thin like me - but I also get laughed at (even by people who know about my situation) because I am tall and thin and cannot walk fast like I'm expected to. I can't run very well either I am physically just not able to most days (hopefully as my health and job situation improves that will change), but that doesn't fit the picture most people have of who I *should* be because of my body type - so I'm weird.

people need to stop with assumptions and generalizations.