Lets change the topic a bit-
Women don't forget things. We remember what you said, how you said it, where you were when you said it. Especially if it was something we didn't like. For us, its 'normal' or the way we are made. What we need is for you men to take ownership of what you said and how it made us feel. But how many times are we told to 'forgive, let it go, don't hold bitterness etc.' Men aren't told to accept the way we are and to help us through it.
Can you see the difference?
Lets unpack that.
If I said something seven years ago, and she is STILL dragging it into discussions, she absolutely needs to JUST forgive and forget. Sorry, thats a fact, there IS NO "help her work through it"....he apologized 7 years ago, I dont CARE how its filed in her mind, the FACT is get over it.
Here is how that works in your analogy. As he should have dealt with what he said soon after saying it, then later she needs to be accountable for her dragging out settled things, she can both hold him accountable for lusting over women, AND see that it may happen...not excuse it, but being understanding of something that MIGHT happen, is the same as him being understanding about what MIGHT happen when she drags out all old baggage in every argument. Its a "tendency" women have.
Here we are not therefore focusing on the fact that women have that tendency, and accusing women therefore of saying hey, deal with it, its how we are made....when they sin by regurgitating history. That would be analogous to what you are doing. If men just went on a rant about gosh ladies you are hiding behind your created nature to justify this sin. Telling someone they need to forgive is not the same as telling someone they are very messed up, and they are hiding behind their nature and perverting their nature. You women are about six layers deeper in your acrimony about this nature of men than is NOT sin but can BECOME sin, as we men are about your nature that IS NOT sin, but can BECOME sin.
Rebuke us when we sin, similar the the "just forgive" when you sin per your example. Then the two would be handled consistent to one another.
What I dont see is the same treatment to men, being doled out to women about this nature of yours to do this. It angers us WHEN IT HAPPENS. This thing about men angers you IN GENERAL....it lives in your mind rent free for petes sake. I NEVER sit and think oh no, my wife will one day whip out an old fact, and women are told they are just made that way and therefore she will feel justified. What a bizarre worry. I deal with sin as I face it.
You should too, and thats the analogy