I know legally it is. And them stats are true! But doesn't mean they get to go to heaven. I Just Don't know man. I just want to do wats right
Most people want to do what is right. But people do break and do what is wrong. So you should rely on a lot preparation to prevent divorce. The whole not beliving in divorce thing is great, but that is really a last resort. Because if the marriage is bad, that will only hold for so long before someone says "I quit".
Now personally if I where you I would wait a bit for marriage. People who marry between the ages of 18 and 20 have a horribly high rate of divorce. And listen I don't care how mature you are, almost no westerners are ready for marriage at age 18.
Thing is that you are just entering adulthood and learning to be an adult. You are going to make mistakes. Thats just a fact. I don't care how mature you are, you are going to make mistakes. Your mistakes are compounded by a lot if you are married.
On top of that you are asking yourself to not only figure out how to be an adult and figure out how to be married at the same time. It is a lot to ask yourself.
There are 3 major gut check grow up times in an adult life.
The first time is when you actually become an adult and make your own decisions.
The second time is when you get married.
The third time is when you have a child.
There is statistical proof that when two or more of those things come at the same time its not for the best.
People who are just becomming adults as they get married get divorced at a horribly high rate. I've heard the rate is over 90% for 18 and 19 year olds. Not good odds.
Also people who have a child within a year of getting married also face a higher divorce rate.
And children on the whole are typically always being raised by parents in their 20's then they are being raised by parents who are still teenagers.
True man, I'm saying. If my only problem is money, then I'm not too worried. But it's still something to think about. I just want to be married until I die to the same woman. whatever it takes.
And thats a good goal assuming you don't outlive her.
What I recommend doing is look deep into divorce statistics. What variables have been shown to make people less likely to divorce, and what variables make people more likely to divorce.
Some of them you can't control. For example if your parents never divorced, you are more likely to stay married. Its a fact, but its not something you can control so don't worry about it.
But there are a lot of variables you can control. Weekly worship attendence, marrying at an older age (at least over the age of 20, but those over 25 have an even better chance), Marrying after having dated for between 1 to 3 years. Not co-habiting before marriage. Things like that increase your chances.
Also higher education increases the chances of your marriage succeeding. But I wouldn't run off and get a college degree to make your marriage more likely to succeed. Get one because you need/want the degree to pursue work in a certain field. The increased chances for your marriage are a bonus.