What? a Christian & Aspie forum? Sweet!

[flowerforever7]

Wow, I was surprised to find this here on this forum. I am an adult with Asperger's Syndrome. I feel like both parts of my life Christian part and aspie part are compartmentalized, as it seems hard to find a place that combines both. Cool to be here!

 

[gracechick]

Ain't it What do u mean by compartmentalized?

 

[Catherineanne]

Wow, I was surprised to find this here on this forum. I am an adult with Asperger's Syndrome. I feel like both parts of my life Christian part and aspie part are compartmentalized, as it seems hard to find a place that combines both. Cool to be here!

Nice to meet you, flower. I don't have Aspergers, but my very dear friend has two Aspergers children, and is not a thousand miles away from the spectrum herself.

I hope you find lots of friends here.

 

[flowerforever7]

Ain't it What do u mean by compartmentalized?

Yeah, it is great. What I mean by compartmentalized, is seperated. Like, it is that it's great to have a forum that is for people who have Asperger's but are also Christians. I have visited forums for people with Asperger's Syndrome, but the Christian aspect is missing. Or gone to forums for Christians where the Asperger's syndrome aspect is missing. It's like speaking two different languages. Most people who don't have Asperger's syndrome don't know what it's like to face the challenges we do regularly. Yet, there are people with Asperger's syndrome who aren't focused on living a Christ centered life, so then something is missing in that respect. So it's good to have both in the same place! It feels like a more unified streamlined perspective. I am recently diagnosed. Most people I do not tell about my AS, as it is just overwhelming to explain to every person, so I just try to pretend to be normal as much as possible around those who don't know, and pray for God to get me through the situations.

 

[gracechick]

Oh I gotcha. And yes I know what you mean as I can't tell you how many times I've been told that I need to do x and I will conquer Panic Disorder. Errr God doesn't always heal and we don't have that promise till Heaven.

It's difficult for me, because I'd like to be more social. But I just don't often get the neurotypical thing no matter how I observe and repeat x behavior. And it isn't easy to fellowship when you are constantly trying to figure which NT behavior is this and how am I suppossed to respond.

Unfortunately I'm not as open as I used to be when interacting due to differing experiences in my life. I think that exacerbates the problem as NTs expect you to gloss over your Panic Disorder or feelings in almost every situation no matter how they've treated you ect. Oy vey I'm not good at that.

 

[flowerforever7]

Oh I gotcha. And yes I know what you mean as I can't tell you how many times I've been told that I need to do x and I will conquer Panic Disorder. Errr God doesn't always heal and we don't have that promise till Heaven.

It's difficult for me, because I'd like to be more social. But I just don't often get the neurotypical thing no matter how I observe and repeat x behavior. And it isn't easy to fellowship when you are constantly trying to figure which NT behavior is this and how am I suppossed to respond.

Unfortunately I'm not as open as I used to be when interacting due to differing experiences in my life. I think that exacerbates the problem as NTs expect you to gloss over your Panic Disorder or feelings in almost every situation no matter how they've treated you ect. Oy vey I'm not good at that.

Yeah, I hear ya. I find a lot of Neurotypicals (though not all), tend to think everything is a matter of it being psychological. And that you can overcome anything if you think/try hard enough. What they don't realize is that Asperger's Syndrome is a neuro-developmental disorder. It's not a psychological issue you can change, it's a neurological one that is part of you.

I find that most of my social interaction happens online. I don't have to fight to understand people and what is going on in the midst of people moving their hands when they talk, multiple people talking in a group, voice cadence/rythm fluctuating, facial expression etc. It's just words on a page, and that I can understand great; or if it is one on one. I usually really greatly dislike social group interactions; it's painful for me because it's so hard to get everything that's going on. And often, I find myself just shaking my head like "why do people like this? how is getting together in a group enjoyable? I find myself thinking I would rather be at home on the computer; that seems like a much better way for me to communicate. It is difficult as I lack some social intuition and things like how to hold my body, where to look, what to do next with my arms I have to manually think about while being in a social interaction on top of my difficulties of processing information.

Are you in any type of marraige relationship? I ask because I often wonder about how that would work out for myself. Like, I really want to be married someday, but wonder if I will be able to actually live that close to another human being, and if the noise of another person will bother me. I wonder if I will need to marry another person with Asperger's who can understand. I panic at the thought of getting in a marraige relationship with a neurotypical who is one of these everything is a psychological issue types, or even being with someone with Asperger's syndrome and not connecting because of it. I know there are people out there who have Asperger's who marry neurotypical spouses and are quite happy. I'm aware that there are neurotypicals who are compassionate and understanding towards people with a disability. It's just the whole idea of what could happen if I got into a marraige relationship with someone is very scary, even though I really want to be married someday. Just wanted to know if you have any experience with this yourself?

 

[dayhiker]

Sweet ... love that word and how its used today in this context.

Welcome to the forum, Flower.

dayhiker

 

[Sabertooth]

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Are you in any type of marraige relationship? I ask because I often wonder about how that would work out for myself. Like, I really want to be married someday, but wonder if I will be able to actually live that close to another human being, and if the noise of another person will bother me. I wonder if I will need to marry another person with Asperger's who can understand. I panic at the thought of getting in a marraige relationship with a neurotypical who is one of these everything is a psychological issue types, or even being with someone with Asperger's syndrome and not connecting because of it. I know there are people out there who have Asperger's who marry neurotypical spouses and are quite happy. I'm aware that there are neurotypicals who are compassionate and understanding towards people with a disability. It's just the whole idea of what could happen if I got into a marraige relationship with someone is very scary, even though I really want to be married someday. Just wanted to know if you have any experience with this yourself?

"eek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matt. 6:33, 34

God is conforming us into the image and likeness of His Son (Rom. 8:29) and having AS does not significantly change that process.

 

[gracechick]

Thank you Sabertooth the Lord has blessed you with much widom and I see it in much of what you post.