I'm extremely lonely and I'm really getting sick of married couples in general, but especially in regards to Christian married couples. I notice that I have at least somewhat of a consistent friendship with Christians friends until they beome married. As soon as they become married, the friendship up and drifts, and contact becomes non-existent.
Yes I know a marriage is more important than a friendship. However all Christians seem to focus on is how it affects the married couple. They don't even bother to think how it affects the other relationships in the married Christian's life that were there prior to the marriage. If a Christian friend of the married Christian has the audacity to confront them about how they're being treated, then all the married Christians get this snobbish attitude and give them a guilt trip ganging up on them. I just wish married couples in the church would try to look at how it affects people on both sides of the spectrum. Unfortunately in my past experience, all married Christians seem to do is look at how it affects them, which is really selfish and rude. I believe part of a marriage is thinking about how your marriage affects the other relationships in your lives. I've noticed from past experience in my life, that they just tend to leave their important relationships by the wayside "for the benefit of the marriage". If you spend all your time with your spouse incessantly, you're going to drive each other insane. You need relationships outside the marriage because time apart (for room to breathe) is just as essential as enough time together.
Yeah I've seen Christians who have the attitude of "if you're single then why are you friends with a married christian". Well with some friendships and relationships you were friends with them BEFORE they became married; you just didn't pick to become friends with them when they were married in the first place.
Other piece of advice offered is "make new friends". I'm extremely reluctant to do this. Why bother trying to make new friends in a church? So I can develop a close relationship with a Christian only to have the relationship drift and them abandon the friendship later? Will all Christians allow that to happen? The probability of that occurring isn't likely. However I've had it happen so many times to me in the past few years, it's what I'm anticipating because it's what I've become accustomed to. As a result of this occurring in the past few years I'm having a tendency to take the "once bitten, twice shy" attitude.
Yes I know a marriage is more important than a friendship. However all Christians seem to focus on is how it affects the married couple. They don't even bother to think how it affects the other relationships in the married Christian's life that were there prior to the marriage. If a Christian friend of the married Christian has the audacity to confront them about how they're being treated, then all the married Christians get this snobbish attitude and give them a guilt trip ganging up on them. I just wish married couples in the church would try to look at how it affects people on both sides of the spectrum. Unfortunately in my past experience, all married Christians seem to do is look at how it affects them, which is really selfish and rude. I believe part of a marriage is thinking about how your marriage affects the other relationships in your lives. I've noticed from past experience in my life, that they just tend to leave their important relationships by the wayside "for the benefit of the marriage". If you spend all your time with your spouse incessantly, you're going to drive each other insane. You need relationships outside the marriage because time apart (for room to breathe) is just as essential as enough time together.
Yeah I've seen Christians who have the attitude of "if you're single then why are you friends with a married christian". Well with some friendships and relationships you were friends with them BEFORE they became married; you just didn't pick to become friends with them when they were married in the first place.
Other piece of advice offered is "make new friends". I'm extremely reluctant to do this. Why bother trying to make new friends in a church? So I can develop a close relationship with a Christian only to have the relationship drift and them abandon the friendship later? Will all Christians allow that to happen? The probability of that occurring isn't likely. However I've had it happen so many times to me in the past few years, it's what I'm anticipating because it's what I've become accustomed to. As a result of this occurring in the past few years I'm having a tendency to take the "once bitten, twice shy" attitude.