Question for the guys, regarding chubby chicks

[Isambard]

#2 girl for me.

 

[Wren]

Interesting thread.

*this woman has always preferred the term fat, rather than fluffy.

 

[Inkachu]

Thanks for all the input so far

 

[Sketcher]

#1 is going to get fatter, and she's not going to care. Which leads me to wonder, how far is this going to go?

#2 could very well constantly have self-image problems that I'd have to deal with, and that's not fun. But the upside is that she cares, and maybe her commitment will rub off on me. If she's a good cook, then she's going to be putting healthier food in front of me, which I will eat and enjoy. I might be inspired to do some exercises seeing her exercise, who knows. But if she takes it too far, like cutting out red meat or something like that, that's too far and not fun to live with. So between the two, I would rather have #2 if she's moderate in her approach, and can cook well.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

I would prefer the second. In fact, the only thing that makes the difference to me where weight is concerned is whether a woman takes care of herself. I have no problem with "overweight" women as long as they really try to be healthy. And if "overweight" is healthy for them, fine. The BMI would call Marilyn Monroe fat.

But I have to say I'm very turned off when girls overeat, absolutely REFUSE to do any form of exercise, and then call me shallow because I'm not attracted to them. Not referencing anyone here, but I know a few people offline who are like that. And there are real-life Peter Griffins and Homer Simpsons as well, of course.

Yes, BMI is not the weight god.

And...I like curves,
especially the curves Superwoman has.

 

[Im_A]

Let's say there are two 'fluffy' ladies that you know.

One of them is content in her fluffiness, she's happy and confident and relatively healthy, but she's not interested in losing weight.

The other is the same size, but she's actively working on losing weight and getting healthy. She'll never be a modelesque gym rat, but she wants to look and feel healthier, and she's on her way. She's also a happy, confident person, but she's very much wanting to lose the weight that girl #1 doesn't mind having.

Do you view them differently? Are they both equally unattractive or undateable because of their weight? Do their motivations and attitudes affect how you'd feel about them?

Which ever one I'm more attracted to at that point of their weight.

The latter girl is more appealing in some ways. Simply because a confident overweight woman living in a society that prefers underweight to overly skinny, and her goal is not that underweight, overly skinny look is wanting to do what she wants to do so that herself feels healthier, maybe in her eyes she'll look better? That's takes some courage because an overweight girl like that will have the overweight friends who have been burned by society who just may be all about, this so called acceptance of their obesity(depending on how much overweight they are) or so set with themselves that they choose not to do something that could better their health and life? The latter girl becomes more appealing because her confidence and self-esteem in your example is just the same.

My attitude about them is all dependent on how physically attracted I am to them. My thoughts on them as a person will not change with the exception I'll know whichever one I'd choose to go after more than the other one. You asked about weight, so the only attitude change will take place only in regards to which one I'm physically attracted to.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

I agree fluffy must be defined...

however, the way I've taken fluffy so far is:

Ideal BMI = X

Fluffy ≤ X + (X * 15%)

 

[radhead]

I'll gladly take this chubmeister.

 

[Tallerthanatree]

Indeed.

 

[DougyP]

ttthhiiww ttthhheewww (wistle)
Miss Monroe is hardly chubby, but at least her thighs touch.

I see no difference in the two girls.

One could say the girl trying to lose the weight has a driven personality. Or one could say she has a low self-esteem.
The girl who is happy seems to be a very sweet happy go lucky person.

Both are equally attractive in my book of good look'n chicks with more points going to the happy how she is girl.

 

[Riot Riot Riot]

So what y'alls are sayin' is that a bit of stomach chub isn't a bad thing, as long as the girl isn't terribly unhealthy?!

WAHOOOOOOO!

 

[GQ Chris]

The one trying to improve is more admirable.

 

[Stravinsk]

Let's say there are two 'fluffy' ladies that you know.

One of them is content in her fluffiness, she's happy and confident and relatively healthy, but she's not interested in losing weight.

The other is the same size, but she's actively working on losing weight and getting healthy. She'll never be a modelesque gym rat, but she wants to look and feel healthier, and she's on her way. She's also a happy, confident person, but she's very much wanting to lose the weight that girl #1 doesn't mind having.

Do you view them differently? Are they both equally unattractive or undateable because of their weight? Do their motivations and attitudes affect how you'd feel about them?

For what it's worth, a woman who is skeletal (I mean this literally, you can see her ribs clearly protruding when she's not stretching/able to wrap an index finger around her upper arm, etc) is as unnattractive and undateable than a woman who's overweight by the same excessive degree. She may be #2 on steriods, if you take my meaning.

How I veiw the 2 "fluffy" women:

That really depends on the *degree* of "fluffyness". Assuming this is an excessive degree...like - she's nearly a foot shorter than me and still approaches or exceeds my own weight...

#1 is more unnattractive than #2

...if...(and it's a big big if)

#2 is unsatisfied with her weight for the right reasons and not just losing it to snag a man - in which case said man can expect once she's snared him that she'll go right back to being super-sized.

Personally, I stay away from both. I have a personal reason, which you know, Vicky. I don't want to see my woman die young unnecessarily - which I believe in part was due to her dietary and lack of exercise habits.

A woman who truly cares about her health is going to eventually lose that weight, man or no man. She's probably going to display attitudes that are in line with my own, with regards to food and certain food choices. If we shopped together at the supermarket I'm not going to be constantly face-palming.

 

[leothelioness]

This just reminds me of Gabriel Iglesias. "I'm not fat. I'm fluffy!"

Anyway, if I were a man, I would consider dating the one who was actively trying to lose weight. Someone being complacent and "content" with being overweight is never a good thing.

 

[leothelioness]

#1 is going to get fatter, and she's not going to care. Which leads me to wonder, how far is this going to go?

#2 could very well constantly have self-image problems that I'd have to deal with, and that's not fun. But the upside is that she cares, and maybe her commitment will rub off on me. If she's a good cook, then she's going to be putting healthier food in front of me, which I will eat and enjoy. I might be inspired to do some exercises seeing her exercise, who knows. But if she takes it too far, like cutting out red meat or something like that, that's too far and not fun to live with. So between the two, I would rather have #2 if she's moderate in her approach, and can cook well.

Why do you say that?

 

[jameseb]

Let's say there are two 'fluffy' ladies that you know.

I'm sorry, but I just had to LOL @ "fluffy" I don't know why that struck me as so funny, but I've been laughing for the last 5 minutes over it - It so has "chick" written all over it.

 

[Riot Riot Riot]

I never understood the whole "fluffy" thing...

 

[Amber.ly]

Did anyone define what exactly "fluffy? means?

Although that word makes me think of baby chicks not fat. But whatever.

What exactly is the body shape or BMI that puts a woman into the fluffy zone? Does everyone who expressed their opinion have a different view of what type of body these two mythical woman have?

 

[Trashionista]

For what it's worth, a woman who is skeletal (I mean this literally, you can see her ribs clearly protruding when she's not stretching/able to wrap an index finger around her upper arm, etc) is as unnattractive and undateable than a woman who's overweight by the same excessive degree. She may be #2 on steriods, if you take my meaning.

If you have a large ribcage or naturally do not carry weight in your waist, you can be in the 'Normal' BMI range and still have a visible/feel-able ribs.

 

[Dionysiou]

i like my women with a bit of meat on them, so i have something to grab but nobody wants a real fat chick who doesnt care about her weight, i mean just imagine 10 years down the track, she'll be one BIG mamma