online dating

[Blank123]

have you done it? what were your experiences?

if you haven't, would you be open to it? why or why not?

 

[Dzhessika]

I've signed up on a few free sites but deleted one account after getting some not so nice responses plus the only guys I attract on there are about 10-20 years older i'm still on one but no ones communicated with me and thats alright .There also was this guy I really fell for ,thought he liked me too but after 7 months of talking online and texting everyday and me getting to close I guess it all came crumbling down and left me heart broken so Ive pretty much given up right now of the online dating scene and especially long distance. But if something does come around I am not sure I would be against it but I would definately have a very high wall up around my heart.

 

[Blank123]

i'm sorry that you went through that

 

[redwngsfan019]

I wouldn't be able to do online dating. When and if I get a GF I wanna be able to hang out with her, take her out to eat, go to the movies, hold hands and all that.

 

[Dzhessika]

i'm sorry that you went through that

It was my own fault but thanks live and learn and move on .

 

[scraparcs]

I wouldn't be able to do online dating. When and if I get a GF I wanna be able to hang out with her, take her out to eat, go to the movies, hold hands and all that.

Well if she lives down the street you can.

 

[white dove]

I would be open to it in the future (distant future), yes. I've gone back-and-forth with reasoning how much better it seems to be able to get to know someone's values and other important information before taking it to the next level, but I had long considered the stigma of online dating. Like, one would have to be desperate to do it. I have had my faulty vision corrected by people who've been placed in my life (not just about this; say, even about community/technical colleges for example), so I have had to take a step back and really consider why I thought the way that I did at the time... about many things I once looked down on.

I keep challenging God in this area. For a long time, I was just waiting for someone I was attracted to. Then, when I got that, I was waiting for someone who had a great personality. Okay, got that. Then, I realized after I had become closer to God with regard to my relationship with Him that I required someone who would spiritually and intellectually engage me, challenge and encourage me to grow. This has proven difficult... to have so many of these qualities I'm looking for. Add on top of that I'd also now be looking for someone who would be happy to date (and later marry) someone with a child. I keep challenging God to up the ante. And so, with this whole online dating shenanigans, I think it would really help someone like me to find those men who truly have those compatibilities going on. Who knows, it might fail. But, I would at least have to try it to know.

 

[Blank123]

I wouldn't be able to do online dating. When and if I get a GF I wanna be able to hang out with her, take her out to eat, go to the movies, hold hands and all that.

scraparcs is right. online dating doesn't necessarily mean long distance dating. I can think of 2 couples off the top of my head who lived in the same city but met online

 

[broken_one]

Got on plentyoffish so my friend could creep on girls nearby online (yeah ), but now I've taken it over and have been using it to find someone that I'd find attractive and a personality that isn't absolutely horrible. I've yet to find one.

Sidenote: I saw a profile on there of one of the girls that was in my High School group when I was a pastor of those kiddies. She saw my profile....that was a bit awkward.

 

[scraparcs]

I once had two supervisors who were both dating people they met online.

 

[Blank123]

I would be open to it in the future (distant future), yes. I've gone back-and-forth with reasoning how much better it seems to be able to get to know someone's values and other important information before taking it to the next level, but I had long considered the stigma of online dating. Like, one would have to be desperate to do it. I have had my faulty vision corrected by people who've been placed in my life (not just about this; say, even about community/technical colleges for example), so I have had to take a step back and really consider why I thought the way that I did at the time... about many things I once looked down on.

I keep challenging God in this area. For a long time, I was just waiting for someone I was attracted to. Then, when I got that, I was waiting for someone who had a great personality. Okay, got that. Then, I realized after I had become closer to God with regard to my relationship with Him that I required someone who would spiritually and intellectually engage me, challenge and encourage me to grow. This has proven difficult... to have so many of these qualities I'm looking for. Add on top of that I'd also now be looking for someone who would be happy to date (and later marry) someone with a child. I keep challenging God to up the ante. And so, with this whole online dating shenanigans, I think it would really help someone like me to find those men who truly have those compatibilities going on. Who knows, it might fail. But, I would at least have to try it to know.

I can understand the back and forth on the whole online dating thing. I remember when i was younger I actually felt the same way, it wasn't until i actually surprised myself by falling for a friend of mine i knew online when i was about 18 that i started thinking, 'maybe there's something to this " nothing more than friendship came out of that instance but it did open me up to the idea for sure.

seems like God likes surprising us like that sometimes, sort of as if He's trying to remind us that ultimately He is in control

 

[white dove]

I can understand the back and forth on the whole online dating thing. I remember when i was younger I actually felt the same way, it wasn't until i actually surprised myself by falling for a friend of mine i knew online when i was about 18 that i started thinking, 'maybe there's something to this " nothing more than friendship came out of that instance but it did open me up to the idea for sure.

seems like God likes surprising us like that sometimes, sort of as if He's trying to remind us that ultimately He is in control

True that. I love it when God shuts me up like that.


Like, "You think you know what's best, beloved... I'll show you."

 

[scraparcs]

Wait, do you mean online dating just as in you met online or online dating as in you met specifically on an online dating site?

 

[Blank123]

Wait, do you mean online dating just as in you met online or online dating as in you met specifically on an online dating site?

either one, i guess. If you meet online at a site like this or eharmony it all amounts to the same thing in the end. the only difference may be that in one case you may not necessarily be actively looking for a relationship online.

 

[redwngsfan019]

either one, i guess. If you meet online at a site like this or eharmony it all amounts to the same thing in the end. the only difference may be that in one case you may not necessarily be actively looking for a relationship online.

If I meet them online but they live in the same city as me then i don't mind. But like I posted in my first post, if its like just online and they don't live near me then no.

 

[Blank123]

If I meet them online but they live in the same city as me then i don't mind. But like I posted in my first post, if its like just online and they don't live near me then no.

yeah thats understandable.

 

[Rory]

I briefly semi dated a girl off the net once. Long time ago, like 13-14 years ago, we met on one of the early chat rooms WBS.net around 96, talked for months and she only lived a couple hours away or so, in Anaheim area. I went to visit her and we saw a movie and spent the night with her friends at Knots Scary Farm which was running at the time. We had fun, but we didn't really talk after that for some reason.

I've met a few women off forums and myspace that I would have considered dating even with distance. Not sure I could do the dating site thing though, I like the net for the get to know them aspect, like on here I have a decent idea on a bunch of the awesome women here on if they would be cool or not.

As far as dating site I'd be super iffy on that, unless I talked to them for a month or two before the first date. I think a "hey i just saw your pic wanna go on a date friday" would just spook me. I am on a couple but I haven't really taken them serious and have had very little contact from people anyways.

I wouldn't rule it out, but I'd prefer forums over dating site if I had a choice and I am supposed to meet someone online. I don't mind the distance deal, I have nothing holding me anywhere yet anyways, so if I met the right woman and she liked where she was I'd more than likely just move to her lol. Really though I kinda hope to meet them at church if I ever find one to be a member at.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Not against it, never did it

 

[J1A1H]

I have been online dating for around a year now. Its great! Technology today takes the hard awkward part of the approach away for men.

I only look for women within 10miles of me otherwise whats the point of it?
I have had some great experiences and some terrible, and i have also just met a lot of nice people and have expanding my friendship group.

At first i was very picky about who i met, but after a month of not going on a date, i thought i would change my strategy.
I was arranging 2-4 dates a week (only on the weekdays) meet up with these very nice women, nice convo over a coffee (coffee as it gives you the opportunity to run away if you get scared ) i made so many new friends through it, when you realise there is just no spark between you. I have met some random women who have scared me off very quickly. And some where the relationship would last a few months. I am yet to find that one person, but i have made a lot friends and most importantly been having a gd time.

Definitely give it a go and see how much fun you can have. You will meet a lot of randomers, but its all apart of the fun. Just be careful.

 

[RockstarDame]

There was a forum that my family owned years ago and i was 12 and started talking on there and a friend of a family members little brother was my friend on there. He was 13 and I was 12. We talked nearly every day online until we got older and started talking on the phone with eachother. When i was 17, he moved from California to Missouri to be with me. We lived with eachother for 3 years and got engaged.

Long story short, i fell out of love. Buts thats my little "online dating" love story.