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So I went in this morning for the scan...

My doctor came in today so he could do this intravaginal scan. So we started the appointment by telling him that I had a horrible reaction to the clomid and that I'm STILL having these massive hot flashes. He said that doesn't seem right- they should have gone away as soon as I stopped taking the pill. So anyway he starts the scan..... His jaw dropped. He said I had not ovulated, but I have nice follicles ready to go (this is good news.)... So he's checking my right ovary and said "there's one follicle ready to go..." and then he said "there's a second follicle... let's hope we don't find anymore." Then he states "WOW! A third follicle, my dear if we go through with this, you will have triplets." This is me -------> :eek: So then he keeps looking and the drugs affected me so much that there was a FOURTH follicle growing on my left ovary. He was floored.

So, here is where the morning goes down hill. He says he wants to continue and give me the "trigger" shot (which will force me to ovulate) and then go ahead with the IUI on Monday. He said my body reacted so well (too well) that we have a really great shot at getting pregnant this month. The bad news is, if I get pregnant I would have quadruplets.... :swoon:

He then proceeded to tell me that he wouldn't let me carry 4, he wouldn't even let me carry 3. That if we went ahead with this, we would have to terminate 2 of the babies. He said the risk is too high for premature birth, birth defects and my health and safety would be at risk. So we had to make a decision... like right then and there.

He left us alone and I decided I could go ahead with it, because the termination would happen before 12 weeks (he said around 8). We got the prescription for the shot and made my appointment for Monday. He gave me some literature to read on how we should start counseling to prepare for the termination of the babies.

We got out to the car and I started reading the information he gave me- How the babies would be terminated, how to prepare, counseling etc. I started bawling and decided I couldn't go through with it. Despite the fact that there was an excellent change that I would get pregnant, I just couldn't do it. :cry: :(

I am so discouraged. I never imagined that our process would take us to a point where I would have to consider terminating. :sigh: The dr said the good news was the meds worked, and he now knows to give me a lower dosage. The bad news is I'm so extremely fertile right now, he joked that DH and I shouldn't go within 10 feet of each other :D

So, I'm really upset about this. Thank goodness I decided to come in for the mid cycle scan- or I would have gotten the LH surge probably tomorrow, made the appt for the IUI and then wouldn't have even known that there was a possibility for quadruplets and have to make a decision when it was basically too late.

It's weird because I'm not pregnant but the chances were so high that it feels like I've lost a baby (or in this case 4). It feels stupid but I'm really upset over this. I guess I just need some encouragement.


 
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I've been following your other thread in the Women's Discussion, but I haven't posted there, not because you aren't in my prayers (because you are), but because I didn't know what to say.

How can we humans bear to put so much love and hope and energy into the process of having and raising children? There's so much opportunity for loss, at every stage of the process. It's really heart-wrenching, and I struggle with this question a lot. But I do understand why we do. There's nothing I want more than to share my love and my husband's with a child of our own. I can think of no greater possibility of joy.
 
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