I also feel a strong urge to start lecturing on the difference between consequences found in real life and punishment but am resisting the urge, lol.
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I wasn't trying to debate - I was attempting to clarify her comment. Sorry to offendOk, I said no debate people...just expressing your method of parenting and why you chose to parent the way you did! PLEASE!
Because I never asked what everyone thinks about how everyone else parents. I aksed how YOU parent and why you chose to do it the way that you do it. I don't want any criticism of others' parenting techniques...just your own and why you chose them.I don't understand how you can have a thread like this without debating.
I would like to add my 2c about some of the things I have read on here, but won't because of the idea of no debating.
It's very frustrating for me sitting here reading this and feel personally attacked because someone thinks that a child who is smacked is abused. Well that's how I do things and you don't have to like it.
when I saw the reaction my kids were having to spanking and just the attitude around the house, I felt that we needed a change. Since then, we have stopped spanking, though we have VERY FIRM boundaries. All consequences are related to the act that caused them.
I also feel a strong urge to start lecturing on the difference between consequences found in real life and punishment but am resisting the urge, lol.
Please share. I'm sure you can share without lecture. If it appears that way to some, perhaps they need to hear it.
I am absolutely open to suggestions as I was spanked and it totally broke my spirit. For a while there, I wasn't "fine". And those who say, "Oh, I turned out just fine"... good for you. I truly think that most of us want our children to turn out "better than fine" and have a childhood much better than our own was. If I am off-base with one or two of you who are reading, I apologize.
Because I never asked what everyone thinks about how everyone else parents. I aksed how YOU parent and why you chose to do it the way that you do it. I don't want any criticism of others' parenting techniques...just your own and why you chose them.
You are right and that is why I specified no debating...because I don't want anyone to feel like they are being criticized. I just want to hear everyone's parenting style and why they chose to raise their children like they do. I am at somewhat of a crossroad and I was really just seeking input from fellow Christians. We as Christians really have no place to criticize how others parent, anyway. Thanks for sharing, Neenie!The way I parent does use the "OCCASIONAL" smack. Now that my son is much older I can reason a little more with him, and he knows the boundaries and limits we set. He is also old enough to understand why we set them.
Yes we do smack. I do not come on here to be criticised by total strangers such as confused.
The way we parent our children is a very emotive issue and well, there will always be those that disagree with how someone else does it.
Um, only Jessesgirl can request the thread to be closed.Dear Moderator,
I think it would be advisable at this time to close this thread. It is turning into a debate which is not what the original poster wanted.
Please close at this time.
Thank you