It is sucking the life out of me. I am reaching for God to help me to deal with this but I am just so tired of my husbands constant complaining. We went for counseling with out Pastor yesterday, we are starting a devotional time in the morning, we made a commitment with our Pastor that we would take the time for this every morning. Please pray that this takes hold in his heart.
I told the Pastor I just want his to bring something positive to me sometimes. The second my husband gets out of bed, it is something negative that comes out of his mouth. He doesnt try to choose his thoughts at all, he lives off his emtions. He is miserable. Even the Pastor told him that people get tired of getting dumped on all the time, I need encaurgement too. First thing out of his mouth today was "I hate getting up this early". Then he said well lets get this devotional started I dont have alot of time. His heart wasnt into it at all, he wanted to be negative. I am praying that it will help him, sure cant hurt, I know it is going to help me. He told the Pastor that he doesnt have anyone else to talk to, so I get it all, Pastor said well that is what the devil wants you to believe, you have God to talk to, allways! ANd then he talked with him about his anger, major issue in his life, it has given the devil a foothold into him his whole life. This is our second marriage together, we got remarried last year after separating and divorcing. He is a recovering addict, he went back on drugs, meth to be exact, we lost everything, our home cars, everything and he chose drugs over us, and left , I was pregnant. I have forgiven him, and our family through God has been restored, so i dont understand why he doesnt have an attitude of graditude!!!!! He went from losing his whole family to getting it back, and he still isnt happy. I am frustrated. I know he has alot of stuff to work on, he was so damaged as a child, alot of issues, but he doesnt deal with them. I thought he did when we got back together. I feel decieved, he pretended to be so on fire for God and told me what I wanted to get me to come back, hmmmmmm addicts are very maniputative, but now that i am hear and back I feel like he is the same only sober. Still has the anger issues and so negative. I pray that he doesnt relapse, his negative attitide isnt good for that, in the past that was his way of coping.
I wasnt planning on venting all this, I guess I needed to. To be honest I really wish I would have waited to get remarried, but I did. SO I am really trying to do what God wants of me to in this situation. It is just so draining to be around someone that is never happy and always negative. I have been really pressing in for God to help me, I have come a long way at staying happy regardless of my circumstance. But it is exhausting at times. And my husband expects me to be his everything, if he isnt happy, he depends on me for all his happiness, I cant be his everything, I am only one person. I cant give him what he needs to get from God, only God can do that.
ANy respnses will be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
God Bless
Sunny
I told the Pastor I just want his to bring something positive to me sometimes. The second my husband gets out of bed, it is something negative that comes out of his mouth. He doesnt try to choose his thoughts at all, he lives off his emtions. He is miserable. Even the Pastor told him that people get tired of getting dumped on all the time, I need encaurgement too. First thing out of his mouth today was "I hate getting up this early". Then he said well lets get this devotional started I dont have alot of time. His heart wasnt into it at all, he wanted to be negative. I am praying that it will help him, sure cant hurt, I know it is going to help me. He told the Pastor that he doesnt have anyone else to talk to, so I get it all, Pastor said well that is what the devil wants you to believe, you have God to talk to, allways! ANd then he talked with him about his anger, major issue in his life, it has given the devil a foothold into him his whole life. This is our second marriage together, we got remarried last year after separating and divorcing. He is a recovering addict, he went back on drugs, meth to be exact, we lost everything, our home cars, everything and he chose drugs over us, and left , I was pregnant. I have forgiven him, and our family through God has been restored, so i dont understand why he doesnt have an attitude of graditude!!!!! He went from losing his whole family to getting it back, and he still isnt happy. I am frustrated. I know he has alot of stuff to work on, he was so damaged as a child, alot of issues, but he doesnt deal with them. I thought he did when we got back together. I feel decieved, he pretended to be so on fire for God and told me what I wanted to get me to come back, hmmmmmm addicts are very maniputative, but now that i am hear and back I feel like he is the same only sober. Still has the anger issues and so negative. I pray that he doesnt relapse, his negative attitide isnt good for that, in the past that was his way of coping.
I wasnt planning on venting all this, I guess I needed to. To be honest I really wish I would have waited to get remarried, but I did. SO I am really trying to do what God wants of me to in this situation. It is just so draining to be around someone that is never happy and always negative. I have been really pressing in for God to help me, I have come a long way at staying happy regardless of my circumstance. But it is exhausting at times. And my husband expects me to be his everything, if he isnt happy, he depends on me for all his happiness, I cant be his everything, I am only one person. I cant give him what he needs to get from God, only God can do that.
ANy respnses will be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
God Bless
Sunny