I was watching a documentary on homophobia. The instructor said, "Tell me gay stereotypes. Good or Bad." On the bad was: weak, girly, lispy, limp wristed
The good far outweighed the bad: snappy dressers, good dancers, easy to talk to, especially about emotional stuff and relationships, sensitive, understanding, smell nice, have great hair cuts, well groomed.
He then said, "so, men, how many straight guys here would want girls to think you are gay?" The guys laughed and said noooooo.
And then he said, "so girls, now you can understand why straight guys you meet aren't stylish, dont' dance well, don't wear cologne, are bad communicators - they are afraid of being perceived as gay."
And a light bulb went on with both sides.
There's truth to that.