Hmm maybe I should start from a couple days back- before I forget what revelation I thought I got. Some of it is already slipping from my mind (the exact words)...
Don't remember how I got to that thought, that past conversation but I ended up there none the less. I was reminded of when someone once said to me, "You don't respect me". I was dumbfounded by that statement, it didn't make sense to me. I was thinking What are you talking about? (I might have said that too).
To me as I scanned myself at that moment, it didn't ring true. Ah but this was coming from my definition of the word. To me respect ment consideration, not being rude, treating somone decently not rough possibly kindly, maybe not betraying not being disloyal.... Like I tried to treat everyone with respect whoever they are- treat everyone as though they had worth, decently.
To respect my mother was to not call her disrespectful names, not swear in her face,. I remember the one time I "disrespected her" we were in a heated arguement- and once again as usual she was not hearing anything I was saying. At one point I got so disgusted with her, I spit in her face. To me in that spilt second that was the most clear way I could show her how I felt about her. I did feel guilty over it later though.
That was my take on the word. Then it came to me the other day, it could be- or probably was that they had a different definition of the word- respect. I mean it wouldn't have been easy for them to come up with examples (especially recent during that time) of how (according to my definition) I had treated them unkind, devaluing or blately rude.
If they ment however, that they thought I didn't think highly\well of them, like as in like under admiration. I don't know at the time...but I'll get honest here & now. It came to me, now I can see what they might have been saying.
Most of it comes out of my Christian faith. But it's not soo locked up. This is just how I feel\think. There's a lot I don't "respect" in this natural earthly world- because God shows He doesn't , through His word. This is one of the main things I had to learn once I got real w God. LOL everything is not of God...God isn't in everything & or blessings everything. Anyway...
I do still have my own "preferences" probably arising out of my own gifts & calling(s).
...like there is someone my hubby works with she is like Unitarian. He's talked w her here & there about God (and if you talk w him about God, basically it'd be like talking to me because we basically share the same doctrine. Different natural flesh (waaaay different) different gifts, same faith pretty much the same doctrine. Anywaaay. so I know they've gotten into it different times. She's basically universalist, problems iwth man pleasing so I think fearing to be different and "offend" anyone... so it becames "all good" and hey that way you offend no one and hope to get along with everyone- no conflicts,Kum By Ah...
anywaay...
I also know my husband's beliefs (which are also mine) get on her last nerve, she can't stand it, make her livid etc..
It starts with that and of course connects w social & moral issues.
So we totally disagree with each others beliefs, buuut I do respect her as a person.
I always think of her when I hear preaching about "even good people go to hell". The Bible says in talking about Moses- (at the time) "there was none like him, no one among men as humble as Moses...and so he had some to boast but yet not before God"
(as close as to the exact as I can remember)
Yea so, I think of her as the typical "good person". I always think well she'd get one of the best spots in hell. But I feel sad- becuase it's still hell. She genuinely tries (as much as in herself) to care about people, help them, be kind, go out of her way not to hurt people, respect(my definition)\ treat everyone with value...She works hard to take care of the residents, has her priorities(of course not the main one-God) straight, has enormous continuous compassion, always thinking of others trying not to be self-centered, also volunteers at a center for abused women. If there was another picture of a "good person" , outside of Christianity- I don't know them. Sadly still, this is not salvation, Christianity has many parts not just goodness and this is only found in accepting the whole of who God is (in Jesus). Theres one for me "respecting" someone who isn't a Christian and whom I seriously disagree with in matters of faith & morality.
YouTube - tobyMac - Lose My Soul
2nd example is my sis-in law.Hmm how much time do I have here....
Don't remember how I got to that thought, that past conversation but I ended up there none the less. I was reminded of when someone once said to me, "You don't respect me". I was dumbfounded by that statement, it didn't make sense to me. I was thinking What are you talking about? (I might have said that too).
To me as I scanned myself at that moment, it didn't ring true. Ah but this was coming from my definition of the word. To me respect ment consideration, not being rude, treating somone decently not rough possibly kindly, maybe not betraying not being disloyal.... Like I tried to treat everyone with respect whoever they are- treat everyone as though they had worth, decently.
To respect my mother was to not call her disrespectful names, not swear in her face,. I remember the one time I "disrespected her" we were in a heated arguement- and once again as usual she was not hearing anything I was saying. At one point I got so disgusted with her, I spit in her face. To me in that spilt second that was the most clear way I could show her how I felt about her. I did feel guilty over it later though.
That was my take on the word. Then it came to me the other day, it could be- or probably was that they had a different definition of the word- respect. I mean it wouldn't have been easy for them to come up with examples (especially recent during that time) of how (according to my definition) I had treated them unkind, devaluing or blately rude.
If they ment however, that they thought I didn't think highly\well of them, like as in like under admiration. I don't know at the time...but I'll get honest here & now. It came to me, now I can see what they might have been saying.
Most of it comes out of my Christian faith. But it's not soo locked up. This is just how I feel\think. There's a lot I don't "respect" in this natural earthly world- because God shows He doesn't , through His word. This is one of the main things I had to learn once I got real w God. LOL everything is not of God...God isn't in everything & or blessings everything. Anyway...
I do still have my own "preferences" probably arising out of my own gifts & calling(s).
...like there is someone my hubby works with she is like Unitarian. He's talked w her here & there about God (and if you talk w him about God, basically it'd be like talking to me because we basically share the same doctrine. Different natural flesh (waaaay different) different gifts, same faith pretty much the same doctrine. Anywaaay. so I know they've gotten into it different times. She's basically universalist, problems iwth man pleasing so I think fearing to be different and "offend" anyone... so it becames "all good" and hey that way you offend no one and hope to get along with everyone- no conflicts,Kum By Ah...
anywaay...
I also know my husband's beliefs (which are also mine) get on her last nerve, she can't stand it, make her livid etc..
It starts with that and of course connects w social & moral issues.
So we totally disagree with each others beliefs, buuut I do respect her as a person.
I always think of her when I hear preaching about "even good people go to hell". The Bible says in talking about Moses- (at the time) "there was none like him, no one among men as humble as Moses...and so he had some to boast but yet not before God"
(as close as to the exact as I can remember)
Yea so, I think of her as the typical "good person". I always think well she'd get one of the best spots in hell. But I feel sad- becuase it's still hell. She genuinely tries (as much as in herself) to care about people, help them, be kind, go out of her way not to hurt people, respect(my definition)\ treat everyone with value...She works hard to take care of the residents, has her priorities(of course not the main one-God) straight, has enormous continuous compassion, always thinking of others trying not to be self-centered, also volunteers at a center for abused women. If there was another picture of a "good person" , outside of Christianity- I don't know them. Sadly still, this is not salvation, Christianity has many parts not just goodness and this is only found in accepting the whole of who God is (in Jesus). Theres one for me "respecting" someone who isn't a Christian and whom I seriously disagree with in matters of faith & morality.
YouTube - tobyMac - Lose My Soul
2nd example is my sis-in law.Hmm how much time do I have here....
