Why Fathers Matter

In my last post, I said I would follow it up with ideas to bring fathers back into the equation of family life and thus the life of society. The following I believe is essential and you can put them in any order you want to. All these have come about from being involved in cultural issues in the church, my own observation and studying sociology at university.

1. Get rid of no-fault divorce as all divorces have someone at fault. If you make it easy come easy go then that is what is going to happen. When they introduced the idea in 1973 in Australia, divorces increased. It also breeds a no responsibility mentality which flows over into other aspects of life as we see in the crime area when the accused denies any responsibility for the crime they have committed.

2. No legal recognition of relationships apart from marriage. People can shack up if they want to but it is not recognised as such by the State. In other words, put legal marriage on a pedestal.

3. Reintroduce the biblical standards for marriage. Jesus the head, fathers subject to him and wives subject to the husband.

4. Forget all this equality crap. We are what God has made us and to try and be something else is a recipe for disaster. Why do you think that society is awash with psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors? Simple, we are giving them plenty of customers who are trying to be what they are not. As one feminist wrote a book with a title "No you can't have it all."

5. In the first five years, children need mothers. Abandoning children to surrogate mothers in child care centres is cruel. If the baby can recognise the mother's voice in the womb, they don't want to have to learn to recognise another voice outside the womb.

6. No latchkey kids. They want a parent there when they come home so they can talk about their day. If you arrive one or two hours later they won't talk to you. It will be a case of "how was your day?" Reply, "Grunt or OK."

7. And fathers, you have had a busy day at work and are tired, I know, but there is no substitute for giving the kids 100% of your time until they have had their emotional needs met. They need you and your time, not things. if your job does not allow you to have time for your children, change your job. it is better to be poor financially and rich relationally than rich financially and poor relationally.

8. Churches focus on fathers. All churches seem to have ministries for women but few have them for men and those that do are not dealing with the issues that man want dealt with. Having a men's fellowship where the pastor comes and preaches to them is an insult. They want to discuss life issues i.e. sexuality, abortion, equality, male roles, fatherhood, teenagers etc.

9.Churches get rid of female Elders. The bible does not support it and men don't need it. They need support to be men and putting women over them doesn't do that. it says your not good enough to be a leader.

10. Don't try and make your children a copy of you. Let them be what they want to be. If you do that they often end up a copy of you.

11. Society, give men back their rightful place of protectors and providers. Women were not meant to be either.

12. Educators, get rid of all the mickey mouse subjects like teaching kids how to be homosexual and do what you are paid to do and that is educate. For essentials like reading and writing and for the future as useful members of society.

That will do as a starter. I will probably add to it as things come to mind. Not everyone is going to agree with me but that is the price you pay for sticking to your guns. And don't worry. I don't intend to shoot anyone.

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