After the wedding, I got a lot of comments from my friend about this whole “submit” thing. “ I heard a lot of submitting in your vows,” a friend said. “Are you comfortable with that?
Knowing that I am a staunch independent person, I guess I could see why my friends were concerned. I have been known to speak my mind whether someone likes what I have to say or not. Sometimes it works in my benefit or other times it blows up in my face. That being said, I didn’t have a problem submitting in my vows to my soul mate. “Who wouldn’t submit to love,” I told them.
Submission has been a hard topic amongst married couples because women , especially in today’s time are becoming more and more independent. We women are career-minded folk with bills to pay and homes to live in. We make our dinner, clean our own houses and take out our own trash. And yet, when we marry, it is expected that we are supposed to let go our “independent” ways and become quiet and angelic and without opinion.
I view submission differently. I know that my husband is my covering. It is his job as the head of the household to lead us on the right path based upon the true wisdom of God. And trust me, I don’t want that role. That’s a lot of responsibility!
Don’t agree? Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLT) states, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
I consider it my duty as a wife to assist my husband as a proper helpmeet. And because I have a mouth and a ton of opinions, I can assure you that I assist a lot! But, my husband is not domineering and controlling (nor is Christ) and most of the time (not like Christ), listens to what I have say, even if he doesn’t want to hear it or doesn’t agree. We as a couple decided that decisions should be made together. If we don’t agree on something, it doesn’t get done until we in total harmony. And it doesn’t matter who initiates. There have been many things that I have wanted and Jason didn’t agree that it should be done and vice versa. We weigh out the deciding factors and move on from there.
The fact of the matter is that we put too much of a negative emphasis on submission. A lot of people forget that Apostle Paul also mentions that husbands are to love their wives as they love they love their own bodies. As married couples, we need to understand that is essential to submit in order for things to happen. Submission to me signals a sign of commitment and encourages communication with one another. You can’t make things happen if you aren’t committed and don’t talk to one another. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” (Amos 3:3)
A house is not a home when peace and harmony do not reign throughout it.
God’s Blessings Be Upon You!
Your Sister-in-Christ,
Sherice Danielle Snead
What are your thoughts?
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. I Timothy 4:12
Knowing that I am a staunch independent person, I guess I could see why my friends were concerned. I have been known to speak my mind whether someone likes what I have to say or not. Sometimes it works in my benefit or other times it blows up in my face. That being said, I didn’t have a problem submitting in my vows to my soul mate. “Who wouldn’t submit to love,” I told them.
Submission has been a hard topic amongst married couples because women , especially in today’s time are becoming more and more independent. We women are career-minded folk with bills to pay and homes to live in. We make our dinner, clean our own houses and take out our own trash. And yet, when we marry, it is expected that we are supposed to let go our “independent” ways and become quiet and angelic and without opinion.
I view submission differently. I know that my husband is my covering. It is his job as the head of the household to lead us on the right path based upon the true wisdom of God. And trust me, I don’t want that role. That’s a lot of responsibility!
Don’t agree? Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLT) states, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
I consider it my duty as a wife to assist my husband as a proper helpmeet. And because I have a mouth and a ton of opinions, I can assure you that I assist a lot! But, my husband is not domineering and controlling (nor is Christ) and most of the time (not like Christ), listens to what I have say, even if he doesn’t want to hear it or doesn’t agree. We as a couple decided that decisions should be made together. If we don’t agree on something, it doesn’t get done until we in total harmony. And it doesn’t matter who initiates. There have been many things that I have wanted and Jason didn’t agree that it should be done and vice versa. We weigh out the deciding factors and move on from there.
The fact of the matter is that we put too much of a negative emphasis on submission. A lot of people forget that Apostle Paul also mentions that husbands are to love their wives as they love they love their own bodies. As married couples, we need to understand that is essential to submit in order for things to happen. Submission to me signals a sign of commitment and encourages communication with one another. You can’t make things happen if you aren’t committed and don’t talk to one another. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” (Amos 3:3)
A house is not a home when peace and harmony do not reign throughout it.
God’s Blessings Be Upon You!
Your Sister-in-Christ,
Sherice Danielle Snead
What are your thoughts?
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. I Timothy 4:12
