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Obsessive Hate

I want to warn people of the danger of this. Just in case you make the same mistake as me. If I allow my mind to obsess over unfairness in the past and the way certain people "treated" me, I will only do damage to myself. Buddhism teaches that. And there must be a quote from the Christian Bible to back it up as well.
Rumination is the most apt word to describe it. Satan uses it I'm sure. To preoccupy us with our own concerns. To distract us from thinking good thoughts and doing good as well. It affects our current mood and attitude to others. There's a psychology word called "transference". maybe you've heard of it. It occurs when the behaviour of a person in our current life, triggers a negative memory of someone in the past. And that person is usually quite different. But our mind plays tricks as if it is the same person. it makes generalisations that are false.