Most of the time I don't plan what I write. I usually am thinking about something I have seen or heard and in the middle of it all a thought comes to me and I decide that deserves attention.
Fatherhood is one of those 'aha' moments and I have a particular interest in it as I have never had a father to guide me.
In my study of the family whilst taking my Sociology degree, one delves into facts and figures to gain an understanding of where things are at and the trends.
Already back then (1990) the family was undergoing change because of Satan's attack on it. Today, he has all but obliterated the true meaning of family. In schools, they are being taught that mum and dad are not the only way you can have a family. They are being taught that any two people can form a family. That the wellbeing of children is met as long as the two people raising them love them. That it is not true that children do best when raised by their biological married mother and father. That two homosexuals are as good as parents as a biological mum and dad.
All these claims are bad enough in themselves but what is even worse is that governments believe them and as a result, they are legislating the family out of existence.
Whilst children suffer when the family is tampered with, the people that seem to suffer the most are fathers.
Too often the only role a father has these days is to impregnate a woman so she can have a child. Beyond that he is irrelevant. How many times have I heard a woman say I want to have a child but I don't want to marry or have a father around.
In my reading of scripture, God made it very clear that the foundation of everything is a man and a woman, who marry and have children. There is no alternative of one woman, one man, two men or two women or one man and seven women. That was stated in Genesis.
In Matthew, Jesus reiterated his fathers plan for society so Jesus and his Father are in 100% agreement on this one. That means no other formula is acceptable.
In the USA, 60% of black children are raised without a father. The largest percentage of people in prison are black males. I wonder why? Well, actually I don't as the figures speak for themselves.
In Australia research shows that children raised by a biological married mother and father and have a religious background are the least likely to fall foul of the law so we have a combination of biological family and religion which are both positives.
The reason why a person adopts a homosexual way of life is because of no father or a father that is not a father and does not meet the emotional needs of the child. I also believe that many have been sexually abused as children or teenagers by an older person.
Despite the evidence, the government is hell-bent on destroying the family as we know it. it has sidelined traditional biological families that work. It has allowed every Tom, Dick, and homosexual to adopt children. It pays single women to have children and it has imbibed feminist rhetoric and told men to pull their heads in and let the women have equal authority in the family which means the man become subservient.
No, it is very clear that the role that God gave to man has been removed by secular society and been replaced with anything goes as long as it is not the man who is benefiting.
Not once has society and government considered how all the changes are affecting fathers. The only thing that matters is the alternative and their right to usurp the fathering role.
Every child needs a mother and a father. Not two mothers. Not two fathers. Not a single mother. Not a divorced mother or father. They need the man and woman that brought them into the world as they have a connection with them that cannot be replaced by someone else. No one can meet the needs of a child like their own mother and father in tandem can.
Society will continue to deteriorate unless they return fatherhood to its rightful place and give men the most important identity they need. Nothing else compares to it.
I remember when my daughter was born. I did not see much of her as she was born at the end of visiting hours. The next day after work I drove straight to the hospital to see my wife and newborn daughter. When I arrived at the ward, she was in crib fast asleep next to my wife's bed. She looked so peaceful. I took one look at her and immediately fell in love with her. My own flesh and blood and so gorgeous. Forty-six years later I am still in love with my daughter. Fatherhood, with all its trials and tribulations, is the ultimate for a man. He cannot aspire to anything greater.
So, what do we do to restore fatherhood to men? I will deal with that in my next entry.
Fatherhood is one of those 'aha' moments and I have a particular interest in it as I have never had a father to guide me.
In my study of the family whilst taking my Sociology degree, one delves into facts and figures to gain an understanding of where things are at and the trends.
Already back then (1990) the family was undergoing change because of Satan's attack on it. Today, he has all but obliterated the true meaning of family. In schools, they are being taught that mum and dad are not the only way you can have a family. They are being taught that any two people can form a family. That the wellbeing of children is met as long as the two people raising them love them. That it is not true that children do best when raised by their biological married mother and father. That two homosexuals are as good as parents as a biological mum and dad.
All these claims are bad enough in themselves but what is even worse is that governments believe them and as a result, they are legislating the family out of existence.
Whilst children suffer when the family is tampered with, the people that seem to suffer the most are fathers.
Too often the only role a father has these days is to impregnate a woman so she can have a child. Beyond that he is irrelevant. How many times have I heard a woman say I want to have a child but I don't want to marry or have a father around.
In my reading of scripture, God made it very clear that the foundation of everything is a man and a woman, who marry and have children. There is no alternative of one woman, one man, two men or two women or one man and seven women. That was stated in Genesis.
In Matthew, Jesus reiterated his fathers plan for society so Jesus and his Father are in 100% agreement on this one. That means no other formula is acceptable.
In the USA, 60% of black children are raised without a father. The largest percentage of people in prison are black males. I wonder why? Well, actually I don't as the figures speak for themselves.
In Australia research shows that children raised by a biological married mother and father and have a religious background are the least likely to fall foul of the law so we have a combination of biological family and religion which are both positives.
The reason why a person adopts a homosexual way of life is because of no father or a father that is not a father and does not meet the emotional needs of the child. I also believe that many have been sexually abused as children or teenagers by an older person.
Despite the evidence, the government is hell-bent on destroying the family as we know it. it has sidelined traditional biological families that work. It has allowed every Tom, Dick, and homosexual to adopt children. It pays single women to have children and it has imbibed feminist rhetoric and told men to pull their heads in and let the women have equal authority in the family which means the man become subservient.
No, it is very clear that the role that God gave to man has been removed by secular society and been replaced with anything goes as long as it is not the man who is benefiting.
Not once has society and government considered how all the changes are affecting fathers. The only thing that matters is the alternative and their right to usurp the fathering role.
Every child needs a mother and a father. Not two mothers. Not two fathers. Not a single mother. Not a divorced mother or father. They need the man and woman that brought them into the world as they have a connection with them that cannot be replaced by someone else. No one can meet the needs of a child like their own mother and father in tandem can.
Society will continue to deteriorate unless they return fatherhood to its rightful place and give men the most important identity they need. Nothing else compares to it.
I remember when my daughter was born. I did not see much of her as she was born at the end of visiting hours. The next day after work I drove straight to the hospital to see my wife and newborn daughter. When I arrived at the ward, she was in crib fast asleep next to my wife's bed. She looked so peaceful. I took one look at her and immediately fell in love with her. My own flesh and blood and so gorgeous. Forty-six years later I am still in love with my daughter. Fatherhood, with all its trials and tribulations, is the ultimate for a man. He cannot aspire to anything greater.
So, what do we do to restore fatherhood to men? I will deal with that in my next entry.
