- Mar 11, 2003
- 11,683
- 8,019
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Eastern Orthodox
- Marital Status
- Married
Things like "Don't forget to wear a jacket" doesn't always mean that a spouse doesn't think they are capable of doing anything themselves. Often, it is just a way to show that he / she cares. My husband knows that I can take care of myself, and that I know he can take care of himself, but we both remind each other to take care of ourselves, because we care. Some other examples, "here's some sunscreen for you to put on, so you don't get burnt" or "remember to wear your hat" (when I go to the community garden in the middle of the hot, hot summer), or 'did you bring your medicine with you' when it could cause serious harm if you forget. Often, being protective isn't a sign of not believing someone can take care of himself / herself, but a sign of showing that you care.I've also seen women treat their men as if they're babies and incapable of doing anything for themselves. "Don't forget to wear a jacket", "Make sure you pick the kids up after school", "You'll need to get milk at the store", "You need to mow the yard this weekend", etc. I guess some men are attracted to women like that (and vice versa) but it's something I just don't understand.
Some of the other things you said don't fall into that same category though, although I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing or as an indication that someone cannot take care of himself / herself.
Upvote
0