Thanks!
Well, you can't deny your own feelings. If you are in love with a woman, then that's the way it is. I've come to terms with my attractions, and don't really feel ashamed about them, even though people try to make me feel ashamed of them. Nothing more human than being in love. What aren't you sure about? Feel free to share your feelings. I hope I can help.
With love.
of course you can deny your feelings... people do it all the time... Christians need to do it every time they have an inclination to sin.... a person may feel as if they are so angry that they could just kill someone... but just because they feel this way doesn't make it right... a person may strongly desire a certain car, but if it doesn't belong to them then even though they may feel like stealing it, they ought not... so whether you feel shame or not is really irrelavent... you are not the standard as to what ought to induce shame, ie, what sin is... and what shame we ought to experience as a result of that sin is defined, not by our relativistic inner emotions which change with the passing of cultural trends, but rather by an absolute moral standard and guide. I hope you never help others "feel good about their sin" because in doing so, you are acting as a teacher, and teachers are going to be subject to a greater level of judgment.
James 3:1 (ESV) 1 Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.
And many will thus fall under Paul's condemnation concerning the encouragement towards sin:
Romans 1:24-32 (ESV)
24 Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves,
25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.
26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature;
27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.
28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.
29 They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips,
30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents,
31 foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless.
32 Though they know Gods decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them
but give approval to those who practice them."
blessings,
ken