Jbear, you've been grappling with this issue for a long time, and I don't expect to change your position overnight. But I think I need to say why I disagree..
The main objection to women being pastors and teachers primarily stem from 1 Timothy where Paul says to let the woman learn in silence and to not usurp authority over the man.
I see a problem with applying that to all women two verses down:
1 Timothy 2:15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
How could the woman be saved by child bearing if Paul was not speaking to married women? And who is they which is necessary to continue in faith and charity if not husband and wife?
This is a good reply to the question originally asked. I like how you are calmly sharing the scripture and letting that be your foundation in answering.
With that said I think it would be good to point out that the verses you mention are right after Paul speaks of women being sober, modest, and having good works. It is also after speaking of Adam and Eve.
The real meat of the verse follows after he says she will be saved in childbearing. That is when he says "if they continue in faith and charity," charity is another word for love for those who may not know, "and holiness with sobriety."
I think if we look closely at the wording we can see that when he says they, he is speaking of women. Because a few verses before 15 he was speaking of women as a whole, and then in verse 11 he said the word woman. In verse 12 he says a woman. This seems clear to me that he is using the word to address women as a whole on an individual level.
This makes sense if one can look closely at the words. It may be more helpful (and here is where I will show that I am not afraid of other translations as I have been accused of) to look at the NLT, or even the NIV. They word it in a more modern way.
But this did bring up an interesting thought. It seems like everyone is going to the extreme in this. Either one side says a woman should have her mouth glued shut, or one side says she should pastor and rule over anyone and everyone.
I don't know if anyone noticed my final thoughts on it in the first few posts. I said that women CAN teach, they just should not rule over men. I think it would be horrible if we men never listened to women! Think of all the homes that would be filled with dead animal heads on the walls lol! Women keep us men from going insane!
But the real issue isn't even about women being in leadership. The real issue is about women being modest, sober, gentle, full of faith, love, and holiness. There are a lot of verses that speak of women being soft spoken and yet carrying power in their words.
I live in the south and we have a lot of loud and manly women here. But it is RARE that I see the qualities of a godly woman in such.
I wanted to point out too that someone said it is unfair that we don't teach men to be like men should be and that we focus on women. I totally agree! Men need to be taught how to be a godly man. If they were, then God would not have to shame them with women ruling over them.