extreme_love_4_GOD said:
I blame myself for everything... always... it never stops.... I have a deep hatred for myself at times... sometimes its only a dislike... it depends on my mood... but its been awhile since i loved myself. Or even liked myself..
Jo
I have just read this thread from the beginning, and my heart is filled with tears for you and the other people who have shared here.
I too bear the scars, on my heart, in my mind, and on my body, of being abused as a child - and have run the full gamut of counselling, 8 years of hard-core medication for depression, cutting myself, etc etc etc. I am 38, and a few days ago one of the most pivotal moments in my life took place - I was spending time
alone with God, and began to cry from the depths of my heart -''why Lord, why do I wake up every morning feeling as if I am about to experience something terrible? Why do I permanently feel as though my stomach is a knotted coiling pit of vipers? Why do I chew my nails? Why do I spend pactically every waking moment (and lots of sleeping ones too) in fear?''
God convicted me that I needed to open
every door in my heart to Him, so I actually spoke out loud to Him about what I could remember (which isn't much). I poured out every feeling, fear, memory, and sin I have committed as a result of my being abused in childhood, out loud in words. And then I asked Him to cleanse it from me with the blood of His Risen Son Jesus.
When it was over, I sensed a light so strong I thought the sun had broken through the clouds outside (we haven't seen sun in 3 weeks), and a peace and calm that made me feel as though I was drugged.
I am finally free from these deep dark and desperate things I have carried with me for so long. They are 'under the Blood of Jesus'. And that is where they will stay - no matter how Satan tries to drag them out and use them against me again.
Something that keeps coming to me as I type this is Revelations 1:17-18.
Can I ask you, would you describe your past, memories, anger, self-loathing, desperation, pain, darkness, loneliness, fear, anxiety, depression, bleeding soul as a type of living death?
''And when I saw Him, I fell at His feet as dead.But He laid His right hand on me, saying to me:
''Do not be afraid: I am the First and the Last
I am He who lives, and was dead, and behold I possess the keys of Hades and of Death'' (NKJV - The Amplified describes Hades as 'the realm of the dead')
That is what's important -
Jesus and not Satan holds the keys of the realm of the dead. And Jesus died for you. He loves you. He wants you to live with Him . In His Father's house. Forever. Starting NOW. So don't believe the lie that Satan has sold you, the lie that all is hopeless, all is lost, and you will always carry this pain in your heart. Who is Satan to condemn you to a life of pain, hurt, and 'living death' - he doesn't even hold the keys to his own 'kingdom'!
Another thing I would like to say is that your blaming yourself is the voice of Satan, he is the great accuser, doing everything possible to accuse those who lay claim to being children of God. Satan will continue to speak this accusation into your heart and life, and in so doing keep you from becoming truly free, for as long as you let him. But you can put a stop to that.Right now. Why?
'Then I heard a loud voice saying in Heaven ''Now salvation and strength and the kingdom of our God, and the power of His Christ have come, for
the accuser of our bretheren, who accused them before our God day and night has been cast down.
''And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony''
Rev 12: 10-11 NKJV coloured text my own emphasis
Your accuser, who tells you that it's your fault, is Lucifer. I urge you to read Isiah 14:12-21 and Ezekiel 28:12-19 (the King of Tyre is Lucifer), to see just who your accuser is, and exactly where he stands with God, which is less than nowhere.
Even if you may have done some things which were not right in God's eyes as a result of what was done to you, all you need to do is receive your forgiveness and cleansing under the Blood of Jesus, and you can put it where it belongs - behind you.
What was done to you as a child was done to you. No-one can change or undo that. However, what
can be changed and undone is the damage and effects of what was done to you. And the only one who can change or undo it is the Lord. If you truly open your heart, talk to Him about it, speak out your pain and hurt, and then ask Him to cleanse you and set you free through the Blood of Jesus, you can walk away a new person.
It is a falsehood and a lie that we need to carry the pain of abuse to the grave with us - Jesus can and will set us free if we ask expecting to receive His healing.
And please know that you
are loved here, with the love that comes from the heart of our Redeemer, Saviour, Friend.
If you, or anyone else on this thread would like to talk or just want to say 'hi', or need prayer, please PM me any time.
God Bless you Jo, your pain is felt, and you are loved by many.
Thorn