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Why does God hate porn?

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by GoBlue24, Jul 27, 2011.

  1. GoBlue24

    GoBlue24 Newbie

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    I understand the lust factor, but does He really expect for a single 21 year old college male that is full of testosterone(myself) to not look? Why would he create such a strong urge if he knew it would be so completely hard to overcome?

    Also, I have had such a strong conviction when watching porn lately that I actually feel like I have difficulty breathing at times. It's like something is choking me and I have a hard time believing that it's a demon because that's a bit over the top for me.
     
  2. mytel

    mytel Newbie

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    Its up to you if you want to stop. If you want to stop doing this, its only through God that it is possible, since it can be extremely addictive, and i believe mans will is not strong enough without God. . Learn about Gods grace, he loves us regardless, if you have given yourself to christ, nothing you can do, no sin you commit, can change that. So why do you continue if you know that He tells us not to lust, and thus not to look at porn? Do you actually want to stop? If you want to stop, it is your choice to seek God with your heart, and God will take it away. At any time you feel temptation, hand it over to God, and he will guide you away from it. But you must be willing.
     
  3. SoldierOfSoul

    SoldierOfSoul Senior Veteran

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    He created that urge for your wife.

    There is a Pornography Addiction Support thread located here: http://www.christianforums.com/f214/
     
  4. mytel

    mytel Newbie

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    just wanted to add, a little yeast works its way through the dough. You have to be very careful, at some point you may be faced with worse situations then porn, like premarital sex, visiting prostitutes/strip clubs, or any other perverse situation, and if you lack the willpower to avoid sexual temptation, you can get yourself into a big mess that you will regret later. I know from experience. I have found its really only through God. You can try to stop by yourself all you want, but for me, i found it to be pretty much impossible. Until i turned to God, seeked his grace, and let Him take it away. You will always face temptation, but through God you can become much stronger, and remove porn from your life, if you are willing to. Remember, don't worry or stress, it is a problem so many of us face, but God is stronger than any temptation.
     
  5. Scott1979

    Scott1979 Grateful

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    God hates porn because it can and will destroy peoples lives. It starts out as harmless fun and then it spirals out of control consuming people. I'm speaking from personal experience of seeing it destroy a family member. My best advice would be to turn to God and pray for him to help you quit. Pray hard my friend. You have to acknowledge it is wrong and want to stop it. Looking for advice about it on here is fine but the desire to quit has to come from inside you. I think when you see it is wrong and want to stop God will know of your desire to turn from it and help you. Good luck and God Bless
     
  6. Blueforest

    Blueforest Created well and commanded to be sick

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    I don't know if He does. But...

    I think He dislikes the harm it does to people's marriages, their homes, their careers, their mental stability (by creating addictions) and the damage it does to the actors in it. It tends to debase women and make them objects rather than images of the divine, which they were made to be. God hates seeing His kids hurt themselves and one another - much as He hates seeing those caught up in drug addiction and alcohol abuse.

    God is love.
     
  7. Bella Vita

    Bella Vita Sailor in the U.S.N

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    It ruins your mind and your ability to have a real marriage when the times comes. Once you do get married everything you have seen in porn can ruin your chances for fulfilling intimacy. It makes men have very unrealistic expectation for women their looks, their bodies, and sex itself. It makes men think that all women perform sexually just like a porn star in a movie and that is sooooo not realistic. Young men go into their wedding night expecting the behavior they have seen in porn and then get very different results and often times it can cause intimacy issues within the marriage and depression. Porn can lead to adultery trading up your wife for a younger model to fit the porn star image. The person you marry should be your ideal image of beauty one that you can grow old with together until the day you die porn does nothing but go against that reality.
     
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  8. Blueforest

    Blueforest Created well and commanded to be sick

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    Contrary-wise though, you can learn some things from it. I've learned some positions and things I would never have even thought of it from seeing it.

    The church tends to have an extremely negative attitude (especially towards sex) so it does not teach people anything at all when it comes time for some lovin'. That's a problem, since the church expects believers to remain pure until marriage, then get together on their honeymoon and thereafter, and blindly bungle around until they might find something that works. I can't imagine too many women are impressed with that. (Of course, most probably never know what they are missing in the first place, unfortunately.)
     
  9. BFine

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    *God doesn't like porn because it leads to lust/sin and unfortunately not all
    people resist lustful urges. The more you view porn especially if you are male it will
    "imprint" images in your memory...this tends to be harder on men since the vast majority of them are visually stimulated.




    *Again I say WOW!!!
    I didn't look to my church to teach me about sex etc. I just asked my mom about things...since I "matured" real early--I was taught the facts of life early also.

    Questions...
    What I couldn't get answered from mom I'd ask my granny...well to be honest...granny was actually pretty
    direct on things, I didn't always have to ask! lol!


     
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  10. Bella Vita

    Bella Vita Sailor in the U.S.N

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    Couples can read books about sex and anatomy to find pleasure spots, learn techniques, and positions. They also can do sex therapy together that teaches different ways of stimulation, pleasure, find out each others fantasies ect. There is nothing wrong with exploring these things as long as they are with your spouse. Porn crosses the line because it is no longer just you and your spouse you are now watching other people have sex looking at their bodies and finding them attractive ect.. A couple can learn about sex and each others bodies together without the visual negatives and lust of others found through using porn.

    Sex is an amazing thing for love and passion and sometimes just for fun and pleasure. But learning about it or doing it is only blessed by God when it stays within the marriage just the two of you. Once you bring others into your bedroom literally or in a movie it is no longer blessed.
     
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    How does anyone know God hates porn?

    As for your needs, marriage is the answer to lust according to the Gospel of Paul. Many people have a problem with that but there it is for all to see.
     
  12. Blueforest

    Blueforest Created well and commanded to be sick

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    The fact remains that without proper education (and asking a woman like mom or grandma (? eww) who was never getting anywhere is not going to help anyone else get anywhere either). If you want good advice, you go to someone getting the results you want, not to someone as clueless as you are, of course.

    Technically, it's the men who at fault anyway, not the women.
     
  13. Blueforest

    Blueforest Created well and commanded to be sick

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    The problem is, never mind the guilt associated with sex in many churches, many Christians (who stay virgins until marriage - all 5 of them - I'm kidding, sort of) are generally entirely clueless when it comes to sex and, men especially, don't have a flying clue when it comes to the female body. Most women in churches tend to be also, since they are condemned for exploring their own bodies. As we all know, that is evil. So the cycle continues.
     
  14. blankCrossfire

    blankCrossfire Hebrews 4:15-16

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    Well, pornography is watching 2 people who aren't married to each other or even in some cases, married to other people have sex. If fornication is an abomination, I can't see how watching it is a good thing. They are commiting immoral acts and have no problem recording it and spreading it for others to see and lust after them.

    Porn is a terrible drug. Like many of others have said, if you really want to remove it from your life, when you are tempted, turn to God, he will resolve it. It really is impossible dealing with it on your own.
     
  15. Bella Vita

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    Marriage is a journey taken together over many years. Couples need to be in charge of their own sexual lives the church has actually gotten much better about talking about this and having marriage classes that go over healthy sex lives. At least my church does I don't know about yours. Sex is something a couple has to explore together if they are lazy and don't want to take the classes or read the books for themselves then yes they may have a crappy sex life and that is their own fault their are tons of resources out there. Porn is the lazy easy way out. Do your research learn each others bodies have constant conversations about what you like or don't like ect. It may take a few years to figure everything out just like Rome wasn't built in a day a healthy sex life takes time to create together.
     
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    *Jesus warns us in the bible to guard our minds.
    Flee youthful lusts etc.
    Can you do that by looking at porn?

    Hugh Hefner has amassed his fortune by selling a magazine that has
    sexual images in it. He has been married numerous times, he dates beautiful sexy women(usually one of his many "bunnies".) It pretty clear ol' Hef isn't fleeing from his lusts.

    "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’;
    but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.


    How many people can look at sexual images and not lust?


    There's also the stuff in the bible about having your own spouse and keeping the marriage bed undefiled. Not to covet what belongs to someone else.
     
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    BlondieLashes Finally a butterfly...

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    So you're implying that at other times of the day I don't look at a girl and find them attractive? Are we all supposed to just hide our natural instincts to the point where they're repressed?
     
  19. GoBlue24

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    The thing is, it's a type of "addiction" that is present in almost all males, especially at a certain age. I'm not saying they all watch porn, but most have ridiculously strong sex urges. If you're a woman you will never fully understand.

    So, if I pray to God he will cause the testosterone to not be released by my testes and, in turn, not stimulate my sex drive?
     
  20. SoldierOfSoul

    SoldierOfSoul Senior Veteran

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    No your right that men have strong sex drives and there is nothing wrong with this. But morally speaking, looking at porn to alleviate this drive is not lawfully acceptable behaviour in accordance with God's will.
     
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