dallasapple
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[I never said, "wow! I'm married! Now I can get fat!" It just happened. It actually didn't happen until I had kids. It's not pregnancy weight either especially since I lost weight after my 2nd. It's...depression and stress and boredom and loneliness. I eat my emotions. I know it's a bad thing and I am working on it.
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Thats the thing..I dont like how its "proposed" as some sort of "game plan" or scheme..that you are thin ..get married and "get fat" on purpose(like its a life goal)..then to further prove its a game plan..you get divorced ..get thin again..get remarried and voila! fat again..
Like your thinking..GOSH I cant WAIT to get married..so I can be fat..
My husband did say ..when i asked him..that he thought some people..if they get a divorce..might try harder to keep in shape..becasue they are worried they wont be "accepted" by the thin people..that he woud want to date..
Talk about brutal honesty..IOW if we divorced..he thinks he would want to date thin (in shape) women..and in order to qualify as a potential partner for them he would need to get in shape..
Im like ..but what about me?Im thin..and he goes..I know..I have always felt guilty that you have stayed in shape ..and I have gained and been overweight the whole time..but ..I guess its because I know Im accepted that way.so Im comfortable with it...If we were divorced ..he woudnt be accepted ..he thinks..
I think his point is he did NOT set out to gain weight..HE doesnt even like himself that way necessarrily..BUT it doesnt bother him enough to fix it..and he doesnt need to worry about impressing me..so its not a concern all that much..
But if he was LOOKING for a mate..seems he would hop on a treadmill and whip into shape..
Dallas
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