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Why Can't I Cry In Church?

Discussion in 'Pentecostal/Assemblies of God' started by FuegoPentecostes, May 11, 2012.

  1. FuegoPentecostes

    FuegoPentecostes Regular Member

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    I've always been someone who has held in their tears. I didn't like crying. But as I've been building up my relationship with God, I've taught myself that crying isn't all that bad and that I shouldn't try so hard to hold it in. But for some reason, I've found I really have a hard time crying . . .
    Sometimes, when listening to Christian music or hearing a great preacher, I feel a huge need to cry. I feel like a balloon that's about to pop any second but for some reason . . . just can't. My face gets red and it's very frustrating because I feel I need to cry! For sins! For Jesus! But I can't!! Something commonplace for me in Church as well is Dancing in the Spirit. Sometimes I can't even focus on dancing because I just want one tear to come out but nothing comes! Why is it that I can feel such pain, such sadness, such remorse for my sins, yet I can't shed a single tear for them??
     
  2. tturt

    tturt Senior Veteran

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    I've got the opposite problem - went to The Holy Land in Orlando and when they reenacted the crucifixion I cried, what I could watch of The Passion of Christ cried, cry in church, etc. FuegoPentecostes have you seen The Passion? Maybe you have an idea on how I can stop? I'm aggravated because I cry.

    How awesome to be dancing in the Spirit.
     
  3. Ranger11b2v

    Ranger11b2v can almost hear the trumpet

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    go to the alter and pray through. empty your self, and God can fill you.
     
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    AllForHisGlory Newbie

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    I am in no way a emotional person. I'm a guy, not to say guys can't be emotional, but for the most part they don't cry as much. Lately, however during worship/prayer I start crying, not like ball my eyes out crying but I cry, especially when someone starts interpreting tongues or when someone starts prophesying. I believe God uses our emotions as a way to further experience Him in a new way, and I love it when He does.
     
  5. stormdancer0

    stormdancer0 Do not be so open-minded that your brain falls out

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    No crying in church?!?! That's like saying no laughing or singing in church.

    I am not sure why you find it hard to cry when you need to. I guess just pray about it. It may be that once you let it out a little, it will all come pouring out.
     
  6. Jonathan95

    Jonathan95 Veteran

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    Yes or to the toilet, where there's calm and easy, and chill temperature.
    The altar is usually near the worship teams area, so it's a lot of sounds.

    I usually go to the toilet to pray, in school too.
     
  7. JeremyChristian

    JeremyChristian Jesus is Lord of all

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    I have the same problem but some times I break through and it comes out. When it does, I can't stop.
     
  8. parsley

    parsley . Supporter

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    It seems like you want to cry to show God how much He means to you. But He already knows that!

    Crying is a physical process where the toxins in the body build up -- like adrenaline -- and the body releases the toxins through shed water. Anxiety can lead to an toxic overload... sadness, love... but crying is not really evidence of what your heart feels. It's more about stored up anxiety needing to be released.

    People crying with repentance and emotional healing are still authentic, but crying can't really be controlled or predicted that way.
     
  9. hopeinGod

    hopeinGod A voice crying in the wilderness

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    I have searched from stem to stern throughout my body and cannot find a laugh or cry button. Over the years, both have dried up. I long for a good, long, cheek hurting laugh like when I was a boy, but it's not to be, I suppose. Many hardships and trauma have taken place in my life. They took the tears from me. In fact, I did not cry at either of my parent's funerals.
     
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    I don't usually cry at funerals either, and once in a while that offends people. I do however cry at inopportune times, grr.
     
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    sk8Joyful Well-Known Member

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    because of how Well :angel: God created me I am Free :thumbsup: to Context-dependent: laugh & sing & dance & cry.
    I LOVE Jesus, and in Him I am whole PRAISE :clap: God
     
  12. dylenbrivera

    dylenbrivera Dylen Rivera

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    I'm on the same boat as you brother. I find it difficult to cry in church, but at times I do. My "key" to crying in church, or at home, is when I feel the need to express myself as such, I listen to what the Holy Spirit is telling me. Most of the time the Holy Spirit is telling me to pray for what I truly desire. Desire as in "towards God," not towards money or new clothes. Sometimes my heart says "I need you Father, and this is what I have in my heart at the moment, pain. Remove it from me." and then the tears start to flow. Just be honest and truthful with God in what you desire, and I believe the Lord will work with you in such a way that your only way of handling it is to let your emotions flow. Crying, shouting, praising... One way or another, the Lord will work, as he does always. Praise God. I hope that my post may help you. ;]
     
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    I'm the opposite. I'm just a big baby. It's funny, last night I was listening to How Many Kings by Downhere. My wife looked at me and said, "are you crying?" Yes, yes I am.
     
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    Why do you have to show emotion? There are no commands in the New Testament that require you to do that. Faith does not consist in emotional states. It is believing God's Word. If you have turned away from sin and are depending on Jesus Christ for your salvation, you have shown the type of remorse that God wants to see. There will be plenty of crying at the Judgment when people who know they are guilty of sin will also know that they are condemned to Hell.

    I don't think that God cares very much how you express yourself emotionally. He looks on your heart, and see whether you believe that Jesus has risen from the dead, and that you have genuinely accepted Christ.

    So, just relax and enjoy worshiping God in your own way, without having to comply with what you think you should be doing to worship Him. Just be yourself, because that is what God wants you to be. If He doesn't like what you are doing, He will change it.
     
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