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My husband and I are in our early 50's. I'm noticing some things that I don't know whether to find worrying or annoying. So many wives joke about, "Oh, that's men for you. They just don't listen," but I'm wondering if there is more to it than that.
There are constant repeated episodes of me giving him some information, and he appears to hear and understand me. He'll even acknowledge it verbally. Then, some time later, he'll ask a question or say something that makes it obvious he didn't get a word I said. I am getting SO sick and tired of having to repeat myself all the time, especially when I could not have said it any plainer or more directly the first time.
Recent examples:
Nephew who lives with us left a note that he would wash the pan he dirtied later. I verbally passed that along to my husband, who acknowledged it. "Nephew left a note that said he'll get that pan later." "OK." Later he found the note himself, and he was confused. "Huh? What pan?" It was like the earlier conversation had never happened.
I'm currently down with a virus. Yesterday I was too ill to get out of bed, so I asked him to bring me my insulin and a syringe so I could dose myself. He came back instead with my glucose testing kit. My daughter had to bring me what I actually needed and asked for. My husband is diabetic too. He knows the difference between a testing kit and a vial of insulin. In the time it took for him to walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, did he forget what I'd asked for, and only remember that it had something to do with diabetes?
I don't know how I can describe other examples concisely, but you may get the picture. In his defense he's been working a lot of overtime. What do you think is the most likely explanation? Does he have so much on his mind that he just gets his wires crossed? Is he "not listening" as in the stereotype? Or is it something else?
If I try to ask him, he'll have no idea what I'm talking about.
There are constant repeated episodes of me giving him some information, and he appears to hear and understand me. He'll even acknowledge it verbally. Then, some time later, he'll ask a question or say something that makes it obvious he didn't get a word I said. I am getting SO sick and tired of having to repeat myself all the time, especially when I could not have said it any plainer or more directly the first time.
Recent examples:
Nephew who lives with us left a note that he would wash the pan he dirtied later. I verbally passed that along to my husband, who acknowledged it. "Nephew left a note that said he'll get that pan later." "OK." Later he found the note himself, and he was confused. "Huh? What pan?" It was like the earlier conversation had never happened.
I'm currently down with a virus. Yesterday I was too ill to get out of bed, so I asked him to bring me my insulin and a syringe so I could dose myself. He came back instead with my glucose testing kit. My daughter had to bring me what I actually needed and asked for. My husband is diabetic too. He knows the difference between a testing kit and a vial of insulin. In the time it took for him to walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, did he forget what I'd asked for, and only remember that it had something to do with diabetes?
I don't know how I can describe other examples concisely, but you may get the picture. In his defense he's been working a lot of overtime. What do you think is the most likely explanation? Does he have so much on his mind that he just gets his wires crossed? Is he "not listening" as in the stereotype? Or is it something else?
If I try to ask him, he'll have no idea what I'm talking about.