I think I would need more information and context to make an intelligent comment, brother.
Fair enough...
Well, uh, my wife and I had—yet another—argument about church. I ended up getting Wednesdays off which will permit me to go to the Divine Liturgy, something my wife isn't necessarily against. The problem is she doesn't see anything wrong with me just perpetually visiting the Orthodox parish (and never really becoming a catechumen or subsequently baptized) for the DL now but then coming to church with her to whichever flavor-of-the-month Protestant church she's going to at the time if I have a Sunday off. I tried to tell her that I couldn't do both, but the argument just rapidly deteriorated from there.
I couldn't think of a way to explain to her that, as I understand it, when a person is baptized or chrismated into the Orthodox Church they're in communion with the Orthodox Church, and thus to go somewhere else would be to break that communion, and would need to confess the schism to your priest before receiving the Eucharist again.
If I'm wrong about that I'd gladly welcome a correction, if I'm right about it how do I explain that to my wife in a way that she wouldn't play the "cult", "legalistic" or "man-made religion" card? She's quick on the trigger with those, because she was raised by (what I call) Christian gypsies.
Sorry if this all sounds a bit out of sorts, I'm a little upset still since the argument just took place about two hours ago.
P.S. - I love the Stephen avatar.
well, it would depend on what your priest would say. when I converted in college, a bunch of us were allowed to go to the former groups we hung out with in college for their services after Vespers, and eventually some of them started coming to Orthodoxy (not because of me I can assure you). in fact, through our deacon, the two who led the services at the Pentecostal group I hung out with actually I think are leaning Orthodox. so you never know.
the most effective way, at least what I saw, was not to go in there and try to disprove or invalidate anyone else's faith, but rather to be patient, and when they ask what you are, explain and explain why we Orthodox view things a certain way.
hope this helps/answers your question.
Thanks bro.
I do intend to speak with my priest about this and see what his thoughts are, he's already been apprised about some of the issues that my wife and I are having and how the church issue is part of it.
The problem is my wife's expecting me to be flexible and go to the Orthodox Church and a protestant church, but she's not willing to reciprocate. Her justification is that we both grew up going to protestant churches so it wouldn't be strange for me to keep going to one with her, whereas for her it's completely foreign to go to an Orthodox Church and thus she doesn't want to go.