MKgal1 said:This I can't get on board with. I can't see humor as being about "pretending something 'wrong' is acceptable". I've not really analyzed what---precisely---humor is, but I don't believe it's that.
RedPonyDriver said:Then you've never watched the cat stretch and fall off a perch...
When my husband was sick, we were the king and queen of WRONG...He'd end up in the ER for pain control...and the nurses and I would joke that hitting him with a frying pan and me drinking a bottle of wine would be SO much cheaper and I would lose MUCH less sleep and the effect would be the same. Yes, it was WRONG, it was SICK but at that point, laughter kept me from crying. Even now jokes are necessary. Due to my husband's surgery and rearranged innards, he tends to ummm...ferment. It's totally out of his control...but the humor it brings...like I could rent him out as a chemical warfare weapon, a professional wallpaper and paint peeler, on and on...juvenile, maybe...hysterically funny among the community that knows what it's like.
Sometimes the things that are SO wrong are SO funny just because if you don't laugh at those things, you'd cry.
I can now see that *some* humor falls into that category of "pretending something 'wrong' is acceptable".....but I can't see that *all* does.
The cats falling (especially to the music of "SAIL") does fall into that category.
Your jokes about your husband's "fermentation"? Isn't that actually expressing true acceptance (not pretending)? You're not expressing contempt or disgust----from my perspective, you're letting him know you can accept it and even see it as funny.
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