Browsing profiles on internet dating sites I have more than a few times seen a woman saying that she is looking for someone who will be "the man in the relationship".
lol, well, I assume this means that you should be a man and not an overgrown teenage boy trapped in an adult body... but if you're looking for precise examples, I imagine that means you should be patient, loving, caring, a leader... the more common things ladies look for at any age.
I don't think it has to do with gender, cynicism perhaps? Though, if you do see the examples both of us laid out, I think we're pretty close to each other's examples as well
So here's a question fremdin: Why the cynicism? I mean I can reach for my own conclusions, but I think this would be much more interesting. How did you reach your decision on what a 'man' should, or shouldn't, be in a relationship?
It's not about what a man should be, it's about what a woman shouldn't be. But I totally want to hear your conclusions about why I'm so cynical, I'm incapable about being honest about myself when it comes to men sometimes.
Well, it all started back in 1995, and the sun was shinning I believe; you were walking through your school yard and the boy you happened to like was sitting on a play structure... my guess is that he said or did something to you which created a redundancy which has caused your cynicism. Yes... quite... I rather like that.
No, to be honest, seems like you've probably encountered enough cynicism that you seemed to have agreed with; who knows, maybe a past possible relationship played a role in your deliberations. I'm sure I could hypothesize for awhile, which isn't exactly sharing much of anything new to me... hence why I asked you
If they mean something else, well, why don't you ask them yourself and see? Could lead to a nice opening for you.
I can't answer for anyone who put that, but logic would tell us that it's the stereotypical male-ness that we see and hear about in the media; the guy who is a leader, a take charge, no-nonsense guy, who is decisive, strong, stable and secure. Someone not prone to emotional crying spells, passivity, indecision or all around "wussiness". That's the stereotypical view.
Browsing profiles on internet dating sites I have more than a few times seen a woman saying that she is looking for someone who will be "the man in the relationship".