What do you make of this?

[mommame22]

I'm posting for a friend who is dating.

She met a guy online. He lives 3 hrs away. He wanted to meet her. She said maybe she could come to his town for the day. He said okay.

She texted him and told him before she left that she was worried because she would be driving in a thunderstorm. He said. "Be safe!"

Well low and behold someone read ended her. Guy didn't have insurance. She texted her date to say she wouldn't be coming because she was in an accident.

He just said oh no! So sorry. Later he called ) went to vm). But just offered to come see her next weekend.

But he did not offer to come pick her up or help with the accident in any way.

Does that seem odd?

 

[Jupiter Drops]

I'm not sure what to make of it, but how long have they been dating online?

 

[mommame22]

They have only spoken by phone once. The rest was texting. I felt like he should have offered to come and help her w the accident etc.

Just saying on no ! I'm so sorry ?!

 

[ImperatorWall]

They have only spoken by phone once. The rest was texting. I felt like he should have offered to come and help her w the accident etc.

Just saying on no ! I'm so sorry ?!

What could he have done?

Not much I suspect.

His response sounds perfectly reasonable.

 

[Messy]

She texted him and told him before she left that she was worried because she would be driving in a thunderstorm. He said. "Be safe!"

That seems odd.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

They have only spoken by phone once. The rest was texting. I felt like he should have offered to come and help her w the accident etc.

Just saying on no ! I'm so sorry ?!

It's probably because he doesn't know her too well. I have no idea how long they've been chatting with each other, but everybody's different.

I guess if he knew her in person or was her boyfriend for real, he would've come right away.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

I don't know your friend or that guy too well, but it seems like he didn't care about her driving through the thunderstorm or getting into the accident.

 

[BarelyBreathing]

I don't think it is odd. They have never met, only spoken once, and live three hours apart. People react in different ways to situations, and if his reactions are not what she is looking for, then maybe she should find someone else to talk to.

 

[Paulie079]

I personally think the better choice would have been to help her out and to drive to meet her instead of making her drive to meet him, but that's just me.

 

[Saucy]

I personally would've offered to help. But just having texted a few times, well, they were basically strangers. You said he did call but went to voicemail so maybe he didn't get the chance? I wouldn't take it personally.

 

[Neve]

I spot a problem here: I was taught to make the guy come to you. Why is she driving three hours (in a thunderstorm) to meet him? Why doesn't he drive to her town? That is the biggest red flag I see - not his text responses.

 

[Sketcher]

I'm not seeing weirdness on his part based on what has been shared. I wouldn't consider him even partially on the hook for not offering to come out and help her unless she was close to his town when it happened, and she told him this.

I spot a problem here: I was taught to make the guy come to you. Why is she driving three hours (in a thunderstorm) to meet him? Why doesn't he drive to her town? That is the biggest red flag I see - not his text responses.

It was her idea, ill-advised as it may have been. If a woman comes out with the desire to do that, I've found it's best to humor her.

 

[TwistTim]

Maybe he thought that the accident was a way to back out of the date, and that she was putting him on about going down?

It's not easy to really know you can trust someone you met though the internet.

And what would he do to help with the accident? Is he a Mechanic? Tow Truck Diver? how serious was it? can't be to bad if she called him... maybe he thought she would just feel better going home and making something happen later on if ever.

 

[Deidre32]

He should have driven to see her. NEXT!

The fact that he wouldn't drive to make sure she's ok, is not atypical for a guy who would expect a girl to drive three hours to see him, who doesn't even know him.

NEXT!

 

[Owlette]

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[Viren]

He should have at least offered to help.

 

[ForJesusChrist]

I

She met a guy online.

That's your friends problem there.

 

[ImperatorWall]

That's your friends problem there.

I'm a guy.

I'm online.

What are you saying?

 

[ForJesusChrist]

I'm a guy.

I'm online.

What are you saying?

Meeting people online is a joke, get some guts and talk to women/men face to face.

 

[ImperatorWall]

Meeting people online is a joke, get some guts and talk to women/men face to face.

You are not very funny for a joke.