I must confess, I go to a church where some people choose to wear a veil while in church (not outside), and others choose not. The pastor does not put too much emphasis on veils, jewelry, pants, etc. I am one of these people out of respect to the fact that there were Goldly people in the church getting revelation that those who were going on the stage should cover their hair. I did this out of obedience (I wore a mantel). I took it off when church was over. The pastor though was not focus on that. I did this in my church and when I would visit another church, I would not. But one time God spoke to me during a church I was visiting and said, " Cover your hair." I knew it was God, I said I will. It was hard for me to do this in other churches. Then around late 2013 while I was driving I heard God say, "Cover your hair!" I said to God I am not in church, why do you tell me to cover it? (I did not speak out loud, but within) He told me again to do it. I spent some time debating if this was of God. I even thought it was the enemy telling me this and this was a spirit of legalism.
But God kept telling me this is how he wants me to dress. He told me to wear a head covering even when I am not in church. He talk to me about modesty and not wearing certain things (I was never a person who was into apparels/make-up all that much), but he was telling me not do wear these things. I always try to be natural unless weddings and special events. I wore jewelry from time to time, but not all the time. I was not making an idol out of these things so why was God telling me to go to this extreme? I did not understand it. I told God when I start working again that I would not be able to wear the head covering during work hour. In court if I am ask to take my head covering off I do it. There are times I do not wear it, but God does not want me to do it all the time. He wants me to wear it. God has giving me a dream about his holy people dressing modest with hair covering. He has since then been talking to me about letting go of certain things. I have cried about the head covering (even try to avoid it). I remember just before God told me to do this, I was in the market and saw a Muslim woman wearing a burqa. In my thought I said, " Thank God i don't have to be force to wear this thing, and deal with this type of legalism." Little did I know what God would have me do it.
It took me some time to start wearing this head scarf (I tie it like a bandanna). I felt the spirit of God convicting me. One day a prophetess ( who does not wear a head scarf all the time) told me that God told me to do something, and I refuse. That I am rebellious. This prophetess thought it was to do with me not wanting to marry (God did not tell her what I was being rebellious about), but I knew it was to do with the head covering. Before this I had told the pastor wife and that same prophetess I was hearing this voice tell me to cover me hair outside of church, for them to pray for me so I can get a confirmation. They told me it might be the devil. But I knew deep inside it was God. So the prophetess who told me I was rebelling did not know it was due to the head covering thing that I told her to pray for me about.
This head covering thing is a struggle for me. But God confirm that he approves of it because when I would directing service (worship team) his spirit would manifest. So those like the pastor wife (even my own mother) who claim it was the devil realize that since God was with me while I was wearing the head covering (directing service) that it was not of the devil after all. I told my sister about the revelation God has been giving me. She believe me, but claim it was just a personal thing. One day God gave her dream that she needed to throw away certain things and not wear them. She works at the hospital so she can't go around wearing a head scarf. I do not push for anyone to do that. I believe that when one is praying (private or public) it is good to cover ones hair, but I certainly would not tell anyone to wear it outside of the church unless God tells them too. My conviction is that God wants us to cover our heads in church and when we pray (outside of church), but I don't go any further than that unless God is telling someone personally to do what he is telling me to do.
Before this, from 2009-present God told me Jesus Christ is return soon. From time to time I would hear God say this. I think this Holiness movement happening now is a sign. To go back to the days of old time religion. Remember in the 1800's Christian women in America and around the world used to cover their heads even outside the church. They used to dress modesty until hats came into the picture. Then after that women stop covering their heads if they did not have a hat on. I don't like covering my hair especially outside of church, but I do it out of obedience to God. I also notice more and more women are getting revelations from God to cover their heads and be modest. I think its a end times movement just before the return of Christ.
In terms of your wife, please pray and seek God for yourself on her situation. I'm a very stubborn individual and if God himself had not told me to do this, I would never had wanted it. I cry so much, I felt like a part of me died when I was ask by God to cover my hair. I always felt bad for Muslim women who had to endure such a thing (to a greater extent), but somehow I found myself in this situation. When you read the Bible you see how God may at times call certain people to do strange things like his prophet. He tells one prophet to marry a prostitute and one to walk around naked and prophecy. He is the same God as yesterday. If I knew it were not of God, I would never do it. I hate hair coverings, but God is doing this as a sign of the last days. A sign to come back to the church of old, the truth. Please pray and ask God if he is telling your wife this is what he wants. Know that it is a sin to not allow your wife to do what God tells her to. Yes some people are legalistic in this sense, but know that there is a calling for modern women to do this. There are also women who have a head scarf that is being used by Satan. But its like anything else. The enemy copies the things God and pollute it. I post this to tell you this could be of God, but please pray and seek the truth about your wife. Don't make a decision based on your emotions, but based it on God. You can only get the true answer by seeking God on it.