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For those of you who have read my forced abortion thread, I'm glad that my mom had a change of heart with that, but I pay for it everyday (my mother is supposedly a pastor)

I constantly hear that I look bad / dead, my child will be retarded (she was just being hurtful), I am an embarassment, etc.

Everytime I try to move forward I am constantly told that I am unhappy because this is my fault (it is my fault), that I'm selfish and that she will not help me take care of my child, although I never expected her to. When I talk to my boyfriend (the father of my child), she gets so upset telling me how he will eventually leave me, then what will I do.

I pray to be forgiven, but don't believe that I am and will ever be... I deeply regret sinning in the first place.

If I don't have the support from my family, then I don't have any.

*Please pray that my child that will be born healthy in all aspects*
 

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I'm sorry your mother is not being supportive, sweetie, that must be hard to deal with, especially at a time when you are bound to be emotional anyway.
Do you have any other relatives who may be more understanding?

Praying for you, and your baby, and for your mother.
 
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sweetheart, if you truly placed your faith and trust in jesus for your salvation, in his death and resurrectoin, you are forgiven, repent and move on. repentance is more for us than it's for god, it's for us to ensure that we're on the right path of forgiveness. Hebrews said that christ died once for all, meaning all sin, past, present and future is forgiven, and that includes this sin, god forgives you if you're a christian, you're his daughter and he's the perfect father.
 
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For those of you who have read my forced abortion thread, I'm glad that my mom had a change of heart with that, but I pay for it everyday (my mother is supposedly a pastor)

I constantly hear that I look bad / dead, my child will be retarded (she was just being hurtful), I am an embarassment, etc.

Everytime I try to move forward I am constantly told that I am unhappy because this is my fault (it is my fault), that I'm selfish and that she will not help me take care of my child, although I never expected her to. When I talk to my boyfriend (the father of my child), she gets so upset telling me how he will eventually leave me, then what will I do.

I pray to be forgiven, but don't believe that I am and will ever be... I deeply regret sinning in the first place.

If I don't have the support from my family, then I don't have any.

*Please pray that my child that will be born healthy in all aspects*


Your mother is being absolutely ridiculous and couldn't be more wrong. She is behaving shamefully, you are already forgiven.
 
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Just want to point out...as a woman who had a child out of wedlock at 19...the child is not a sin. the pregnancy is not a sin. Children are a blessing from God. PERIOD.

And the sin that was there, is yours to own and repent of, if you choose. God is the only one who can wash you of that guilt (and in my experience, even if He does, sometimes we still beat ourselves up).

You are in a difficult situation and not having your mother's support just makes it worse, but your mother doesn't control your mouth and if you need to reach out, do it...it's as much for you as it is the baby.
 
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