You're not "harping".....sometimes you just need the perspective from others. Isn't that just what forums are about?I really am not trying to harp or complain. I would like to get the issue resolved. I would talk to him directly, but that's exactly the problem. I can't. He doesn't listen, and/or doesn't get it. So, I have to get ideas for a solution from somewhere else.
To me.....it really seems that you're making a lot of effort to work around his quirks (like knowing his routines....knowing he will only hear you if he's not busy with something else....and being patient with him). I also understand how frustrating it can be when you're a solution-based person and when the solution is basically in the hands of another person. I don't know how to go about getting the solution you need.....but I do feel for you (((hugs))).
I DO think that having a support (even if it's just here)---and being able to write out your thoughts (especially since you aren't being heard at home)...and helpful.
Of course. You have compassion---and it's not asking too much to be treated with compassion.Most of the time things are good between us, but when these things happen, oh boy do they happen, and it hurts me. A lot.
But I hate being treated like this. I have worked hard in therapy trying to build up enough self-esteem to feel like I'm worth being listened to and taken seriously. Then things like this happen. I can't get him to understand. Does anybody know a way I can try explaining it?
I wish I *did* know how you could get him to understand. Unfortunately--though---I think it all comes down to him being self-motivated to understand and to make self adjustments.
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