Hey all, I haven't posted in a while.
As the title says I am considering leaving Orthodoxy. For a while now I've realised that I don't come back form church feeling fulfilled like I used to but I've been trying to push that to the back of my mind. I've also posted a few questions here to try and sort out my thoughts. But the truth of the matter is it hasn't really helped and today I reached that moment where it dawns on me that "hey, I just don't feel part of Orthodoxy".
In the past I used to be quite involved with the church, mainly through the choir and contributing to the odd reading (this was in my early to late teens, I am 21 now) but I was pushed away from that with silly excuses like my "English accent" while I speak Romanian.
Then as I grew up I realised I don't agree with a lot of the views held within the Orthodox church. For example, I don't think it is a woman's duty to withstand beatings by her husband as was taught to us in church. When my mother asked one of the priests to pray for my father who had a problem with drink at the time, she was told that if she ever mentions anything about her husband again she will not be allowed back into the church. Another lady was told that if she doesn't stop taking (non-abortive) contraception to avoid a third cesarean section she will not be allowed have Communion. I don't believe that women should be banned from the church after having a baby until they are churched. I don't even believe women shouldn't be priests. It seems Orthodoxy is geared towards men and men alone.
Today, I hoped to receive Communion but Murphy's Law I got my period just a few minutes before going up. I faced the embarrassment of going up in front of three men and begging to please be allowed have communion only to be cut off with a definitive "No" before I could explain that I have to get three buses on the way in and another three buses on the way back and will therefore not be able to come in for Easter to try and have Communion again as there is no public transport on the day. I then had to walk away in shame in front of the whole church. I tried sitting through the sermon but for a long time the priest spoke about the importance of Communion to those who receive it and I couldn't take it any longer I went into the bathroom and cried.
All this because I have a normal functioning body which is supposed to menstruate once a month....am I supposed to wish for an unhealthy body?
I don't know what other branch of Christianity I would join, the only other branch I know well is Catholicism and I don't think I would feel comfortable there either.
I don't even know why I'm posting this....I guess I am so disappointed and disillusioned that I want somebody to tell me it's ok. I want to keep serving God but I don't know how when I don't even feel comfortable in church.