Hi ozpen,
Thanks for the link. I'm one of the 'dones'. I visit around different fellowships from time to time and thoroughly enjoy the fellowship and worship. However, I have visited fellowships where, even though I'm sure some people there see that I am a stranger to their group, not a single person stops to say 'hi' or ask any questions of me. I have been to others where nearly everyone in attendance will make some effort to reach out.
I was a strong attender for many, many years and would never think of allowing a Sunday to pass without being in fellowship with a group in which I held 'membership', but...
The last fellowship in which I was a member caused me great concern in my heart. Let me first say that I am fairly knowledgeable concerning the Scriptures and when I sit under someone as leader I expect them to also be likewise 'knowldgeable'. We had a fairly fine pastor but he left. He was actually run out over money issues. Not that he took any money, but there were major issues about how the money was to be handled. How the money would be used and who would have the final say.
A new teacher was installed and he began a bible study which I attended and in the very first night that I attended made two fairly glaring mistakes in his presentation of the truth. Not a single person in the group said a word. I'll briefly give the example.
We were learning about the exodus from Egypt and the pastor was recounting the timeline and he said that the book of numbers explained that Moses had set up the temple and spoken to God there in the second month after they had left Egypt. He was attempting to explain how quickly God had set up, in Israel, their worship practices. He then referred us to the book of numbers 1:1. He read it and again made the statement that we could see that Israel had only left Egypt 30 days before.
Well, numbers 1:1 clearly says that Israel had been in the desert one year and one month, but no one said a word. He came to a point where he asked if there were any questions and I pointed out this error. When I brought up that my copy of the Scriptures says it was the second month after the first year, then many others in the group also voiced their agreement with my understanding. The teacher began to sputter and hem and haw and read it over and said that he would have to get back to us on the issue. It seems that his entire premise and support of his teaching was based on his understanding that it had only been one month after leaving Egypt that this event had taken place.
Well, I let it go and he continued and again made a fairly glaring error in his understanding of the Scriptures, although I must concede that at this moment I don't recall what the second issue was, but I recall that it was a similar error and again not a word was said by anyone in the group. At that point I decided that he really wasn't as knowledgeable as was required by me of someone in his position.
At another time in a sermon, speaking of the beginning of creation, he made a comment along the lines of: Now some believe that the creation event happened less than 10 thousand years ago. I made a comment to my son sitting beside me that it was more like 6 thousand years ago and that it wasn't what some believed, but the truth. Well, the new teacher's parents and wife happened to be sitting in front of me and a few days later I was called into his office and soundly redressed for making the comment and made to promise that it would never happen again. One would have thought that I'd stood up and interrupted his teaching before the whole congregation to offer the truth of the Scriptures to them.
There was another issue that came up in small group quite a bit earlier in my time with that fellowship, but it was regarding the beliefs of a small group lay leader who I don't generally hold to the same standards. I realize that they are just regular folk who desire to lead small group. This leader seemed to believe and support that there are other 'creatures' of God's design on other planets in the creation. I suppose we might call this the 'Star Trek' phenomenon. Television and movies have 'opened our eyes' to the 'truth' that there are other beings out there somewhere.
Anyway, when I was made to promise that I would never again correct some issue privately to my family made by someone who had obviously made several mistakes in his understanding of the Scriptures, I left. Not surprisingly, I have not received a single inquiry or note or other contact from anyone in the congregation wanting to know what had happened to me. I was just gone and no one seemed to care. There was one friend who did, after many months of being gone, ask me why I wasn't coming any longer.
Sadly, I am presently a 'dones', but I do miss worship and most importantly communion with a fellowship and my intentions are to find another body of believers to enjoin, but I am troubled by the attitude that a fellowship with which I had had a fairly long history and had supported and worked in choir and ministries with seemed to, as a group, have such little concern for someone like that who would just disappear from their midst.
Finally, I bristle at the term 'church' to describe the weekly gathering of believers. That we have baptist churches and methodist churches and catholic churches. It is my understanding that there is only one church and it defines the whole of born again believers all across the globe. The smaller local gatherings are merely 'fellowships' of the greater 'church'. A congregation where I attended in Miami when I lived there faced this issue and held a congregational vote to change the name of their fellowship from 'Perrine Baptist Church' to 'Christ Fellowship'. I suppose that monumental act made a lasting impression on my understanding of what one should properly call the smaller local groups of the 'church' that meet on Sunday or whatever day they choose to meet.
For all of these reasons, and a few others, I have joined the 'dones' for a season.
God bless you.
In Christ, Ted