I recently started a new job about 4 weeks ago, and I am seriously considering quitting. I’m looking for feedback from women only as to what you think of my new job and whether you would also quit. I just started to try to find another new job now, but if I don’t get one in the next 2-3 weeks I will just have to quit without another one.
There is an awful lot of complaining going on in this company. It seems like almost nobody is happy. I’ve heard it frequently employees voicing their concerns that they are afraid they are going to get sick. Semi frequent swearing goes on backstabbing other employees using swear words. Gossip is common. While the boss is away the employees complain about him, saying how much they dislike him, and that he is driving everyone crazy. From the very beginning it seems like they were deliberately trying to get me to leave, but I know that that is isn’t true. I think they just don’t know what they are doing.
Since I sit out in the open it seems to be that I am entitled to no privacy. It seems people think they can voice their thoughts to me as they walk by. They don’t think about the fact that I have to work too and need to concentrate. They are lucky, they have their own offices. I find it very tiring and exhausting to have to listen to certain people voice their negative emotions out on me. Several times they will congregate close to my desk and start a personal conversation all about the problems about their health or their family. I have no where to go but to have to listen.
The biggest problem I have encountered is that when I was being trained, the person who was training me (I’ll call her Sharon) was very verbally and emotionally abusive to me. She went 100 miles an hour in showing me a new database and application, many times and often wouldn’t stay on topic and just make a huge confusing mess of it. She also wouldn’t really allow me much time to take any notes. She was extremely.. I mean extremely impatient. She was akin to flipping out..having a mini fit! Many times she would just hiss at me that she didn’t have time to train me, as they were very behind. But I was hired to help her and get things moving faster, you’d think she would be so happy and take the time to train me properly. On top of all that, if I asked a question, she would look at me like ‘duh’ or just say something like “Of course!” and make me look like an idiot. I could go on, but at the end of two days I thought I would break down and cry. As it ended up , the next day she apologized to me giving some reasons about the problems she was having in life. She was quite nice after that and much more patient, but still she couldn’t explain her job that made any sense at all. She kept saying to me that she was so used to doing everything automatically, that she never thought about things anymore.
After a week, it eventually happened that I got another person who used to do the job train me. It was just really getting more information and clarification. It was amazing, the difference, and I understood everything she told me and things just started clicking from then on. I was so grateful, because when I was first hired I was told right away, that the person before me was fired because she couldn’t get the system. And I think from that day on it really spoiled my view of everything, because it put so much pressure on me to learn this system that seemed like it would be so hard. But it really wasn’t, and in the end it just came down to being trained properly.
Last week I found out that I was still missing information, and then we ran into problems because of something I didn’t do. It turned out it was because I was not told about it due to their lack of training. I was not reprimanded or anything, but I did feel bad that it happened. It’s hard to tell whether they believed it was that I didn’t receive that bit of information, or if it was me.
I thought after that episode with Sharon that things would be different. But just last Friday she asked me a question and I tried to explain to her and she flipped out again saying she didn’t have time to listen to me. Later in the day she had a mini fit like a 2 year old. Her body was shaking up and down because she was frustrated. This is the person I have to work with and in assisting/taking over for her.
It isn’t just her either. The other women are unfriendly, and their personalities can be rude and ornary. At one point someone was supposed to show me where a file was, and they didn’t show me because they just I guess didn’t want to.
There is one person who giggles frequently throughout the day. I’ll call her Misty. Misty also demands my attention regularly. At a couple occasions she has come up to me and asked why I look so sad? I am getting so tired of it. She told me to not worry and stop being so overwhelmed. But I never complained about it, to her or anybody. She told me that they put so much upon me so early, but I should not let it get to me. Lol You see, I have trained 2 temps already just in the short 3-4 weeks I have been there, and I don’t even know my full position. So I was not only training and learning Sharon’s job, but I also had to train 2 temps and show them everything and answer all their questions etc. so that I could concentrate fully on Sharon’s job. It has been so exhausting, I have never ever been in a situation like this.
The irony of Misty is that while I was waiting for the temp to arrive and doing 2 jobs at the same time on Friday, Misty came by and reported to me that while she is away I would have to do her job and fill in. I have never Heard of this before from anybody. She proceeded to show me what she does and I sat there and was in shock!!!!!!! that of all the people, Misty would be trying to teach me her job in such a random and informal way. Again this time, she never let me reach for a piece of paper and pencil to write down the steps. It seemed because she was leaving early that day, that she was telling me I’d have to do it that day along with everything else. What ? I’m supposed to now do the jobs of her too, and I am being paid so much less? Anyways, she then left and told me she would come back later sometime and show it to me again. Later that day Misty came by and asked me why I looked like a “deer in the headlights” while she was talking to me. She then told me she thought I looked much happier in the afternoon, as opposed to the morning when I looked sad. I wish she would stop commenting on how I look and telling me how to feel!!!
Lastly the boss came to me one day and asked me to start doing the job I was training for. He has no idea what it all involves and he didn’t know that I at the time was not an expert yet on the job!? I had to tell him I was not, and I felt the pressure to be fired!
I have never felt this disrespected and alone in my life. Being a new person it is hard to speak up, because I don’t know anyone very well and I don’t know my own job and how everything flows. Being new you also don’t want to step on anyone’s toes, and cause conflict right from the very beginning, not knowing anyone’s personality and who you might make an enemy with. In any case, it has been so very stressful and I am so unhappy. This company is trouble.
Would anyone else quit with a job like this? Sometimes I wonder if I am being too sensitive? I haven't working in several years, so I dont know if things have gotten worse or what ? I never had any of these problems like these before. I just needed to vent somewhere, and get other people's opinions becuase I feel so alone. I just feel so like a fish out of water at this place.
I'd appreciate anyone's feedback.
Thanks so much.
There is an awful lot of complaining going on in this company. It seems like almost nobody is happy. I’ve heard it frequently employees voicing their concerns that they are afraid they are going to get sick. Semi frequent swearing goes on backstabbing other employees using swear words. Gossip is common. While the boss is away the employees complain about him, saying how much they dislike him, and that he is driving everyone crazy. From the very beginning it seems like they were deliberately trying to get me to leave, but I know that that is isn’t true. I think they just don’t know what they are doing.
Since I sit out in the open it seems to be that I am entitled to no privacy. It seems people think they can voice their thoughts to me as they walk by. They don’t think about the fact that I have to work too and need to concentrate. They are lucky, they have their own offices. I find it very tiring and exhausting to have to listen to certain people voice their negative emotions out on me. Several times they will congregate close to my desk and start a personal conversation all about the problems about their health or their family. I have no where to go but to have to listen.
The biggest problem I have encountered is that when I was being trained, the person who was training me (I’ll call her Sharon) was very verbally and emotionally abusive to me. She went 100 miles an hour in showing me a new database and application, many times and often wouldn’t stay on topic and just make a huge confusing mess of it. She also wouldn’t really allow me much time to take any notes. She was extremely.. I mean extremely impatient. She was akin to flipping out..having a mini fit! Many times she would just hiss at me that she didn’t have time to train me, as they were very behind. But I was hired to help her and get things moving faster, you’d think she would be so happy and take the time to train me properly. On top of all that, if I asked a question, she would look at me like ‘duh’ or just say something like “Of course!” and make me look like an idiot. I could go on, but at the end of two days I thought I would break down and cry. As it ended up , the next day she apologized to me giving some reasons about the problems she was having in life. She was quite nice after that and much more patient, but still she couldn’t explain her job that made any sense at all. She kept saying to me that she was so used to doing everything automatically, that she never thought about things anymore.
After a week, it eventually happened that I got another person who used to do the job train me. It was just really getting more information and clarification. It was amazing, the difference, and I understood everything she told me and things just started clicking from then on. I was so grateful, because when I was first hired I was told right away, that the person before me was fired because she couldn’t get the system. And I think from that day on it really spoiled my view of everything, because it put so much pressure on me to learn this system that seemed like it would be so hard. But it really wasn’t, and in the end it just came down to being trained properly.
Last week I found out that I was still missing information, and then we ran into problems because of something I didn’t do. It turned out it was because I was not told about it due to their lack of training. I was not reprimanded or anything, but I did feel bad that it happened. It’s hard to tell whether they believed it was that I didn’t receive that bit of information, or if it was me.
I thought after that episode with Sharon that things would be different. But just last Friday she asked me a question and I tried to explain to her and she flipped out again saying she didn’t have time to listen to me. Later in the day she had a mini fit like a 2 year old. Her body was shaking up and down because she was frustrated. This is the person I have to work with and in assisting/taking over for her.
It isn’t just her either. The other women are unfriendly, and their personalities can be rude and ornary. At one point someone was supposed to show me where a file was, and they didn’t show me because they just I guess didn’t want to.
There is one person who giggles frequently throughout the day. I’ll call her Misty. Misty also demands my attention regularly. At a couple occasions she has come up to me and asked why I look so sad? I am getting so tired of it. She told me to not worry and stop being so overwhelmed. But I never complained about it, to her or anybody. She told me that they put so much upon me so early, but I should not let it get to me. Lol You see, I have trained 2 temps already just in the short 3-4 weeks I have been there, and I don’t even know my full position. So I was not only training and learning Sharon’s job, but I also had to train 2 temps and show them everything and answer all their questions etc. so that I could concentrate fully on Sharon’s job. It has been so exhausting, I have never ever been in a situation like this.
The irony of Misty is that while I was waiting for the temp to arrive and doing 2 jobs at the same time on Friday, Misty came by and reported to me that while she is away I would have to do her job and fill in. I have never Heard of this before from anybody. She proceeded to show me what she does and I sat there and was in shock!!!!!!! that of all the people, Misty would be trying to teach me her job in such a random and informal way. Again this time, she never let me reach for a piece of paper and pencil to write down the steps. It seemed because she was leaving early that day, that she was telling me I’d have to do it that day along with everything else. What ? I’m supposed to now do the jobs of her too, and I am being paid so much less? Anyways, she then left and told me she would come back later sometime and show it to me again. Later that day Misty came by and asked me why I looked like a “deer in the headlights” while she was talking to me. She then told me she thought I looked much happier in the afternoon, as opposed to the morning when I looked sad. I wish she would stop commenting on how I look and telling me how to feel!!!
Lastly the boss came to me one day and asked me to start doing the job I was training for. He has no idea what it all involves and he didn’t know that I at the time was not an expert yet on the job!? I had to tell him I was not, and I felt the pressure to be fired!
I have never felt this disrespected and alone in my life. Being a new person it is hard to speak up, because I don’t know anyone very well and I don’t know my own job and how everything flows. Being new you also don’t want to step on anyone’s toes, and cause conflict right from the very beginning, not knowing anyone’s personality and who you might make an enemy with. In any case, it has been so very stressful and I am so unhappy. This company is trouble.
Would anyone else quit with a job like this? Sometimes I wonder if I am being too sensitive? I haven't working in several years, so I dont know if things have gotten worse or what ? I never had any of these problems like these before. I just needed to vent somewhere, and get other people's opinions becuase I feel so alone. I just feel so like a fish out of water at this place.
I'd appreciate anyone's feedback.
Thanks so much.
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