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One trend that I notice on the MC forum is that, when someone asks for advice about brokenness, healing, prayer, or restoration in their marriage, a question sometimes will come up - "Is your spouse a Christian?"
It's curious to me, I suppose, because it somehow implies that the issues might be better understood if the offending spouse was not Christian. We can then pull the 'unbeliever' card, and offer some sage advice on praying for the salvation of the spouse, or "keeping silence" in order to "win over" the unbelieving spouse through the believer's conduct (or some such thing). Certainly, an unbeliever's 'sin' is much simpler to focus on.
I would suggest that the point can be moot, at times. Christian or not, all are vulnerable to sin that affects marriage, leads to relationship breakdown, and (gasp!) divorce. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Without his righteousness, we surely fail as much as the 'unbeliever' who becomes the scapegoat of the issues at hand.
So, before we make the assumptions, or even ask the question, maybe we can examine if it's an important fact to know, and why we're asking.
It's curious to me, I suppose, because it somehow implies that the issues might be better understood if the offending spouse was not Christian. We can then pull the 'unbeliever' card, and offer some sage advice on praying for the salvation of the spouse, or "keeping silence" in order to "win over" the unbelieving spouse through the believer's conduct (or some such thing). Certainly, an unbeliever's 'sin' is much simpler to focus on.
I would suggest that the point can be moot, at times. Christian or not, all are vulnerable to sin that affects marriage, leads to relationship breakdown, and (gasp!) divorce. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Without his righteousness, we surely fail as much as the 'unbeliever' who becomes the scapegoat of the issues at hand.
So, before we make the assumptions, or even ask the question, maybe we can examine if it's an important fact to know, and why we're asking.