The Code

[Rose of Eden]

This reminds me of that cell phone commercial. The one with the two friends on the ski lift.

I LOVE that commercial! Cracks me up every time I see it!

These are actually really good questions, and maybe in the future if someone is dating someone they should take these questions into consideration before actually -being- jealous or heartbroken that the guy is dating one of their friends.

Haha! Yes, a good idea! But if only I could guarantee that I'll even be able to think straight with a bunch of crazy emotions eating me alive!

 

[LadyOfMystery]

lol true! I think a lot of times you (in general) get blindsided and you actually start thinking what you had was fantastic and someone was taking it from you, but in reality it's probably a good thing someone else is having to deal with the issues and not you.

 

[Tamara224]

The dating code that is.

Say you date someone, and then you guys break up. Is it wrong if one of your friends wants to date your ex? Would you have a problem with that or not? Why/why not?

It depends. If he broke my heart and it was a close friend, I would hope that she could at least hold off till I was a little healed. And even then, I would hope that she was serious about him, and not just jumping into a casual relationship that she knows would hurt me.

If she wasn't a close friend, I wouldn't expect her to consider my feelings.

If the breakup was mutual or initiated by me, then he's fair game for all my friends as far as I'm concerned.

 

[Amber.ly]

My personal code is not to be invovled with any guy a friend dated OR had a serious crush on. Friendship comes first. Or hoes before bros

Because it isn't up to me what other people do, I don't have an opinion on someone else dating my ex.

I think Shakespeare sums this up quite nicely:

"Neither a borrower nor a lender be"

 

[Mess]

The Code among my personal group of friends is, no dating of ex's or love interests of other people in said group.

 

[LightUp]

I don't know. On the one hand I would not want to get in the way of another persons happiness (especially a friend). But at the same time it still seems kind of wrong.

 

[Rose of Eden]

Friendship comes first. Or hoes before bros

This is exactly my attitude toward these type of situations.

 

[HazelWings]

The dating code that is.

Say you date someone, and then you guys break up. Is it wrong if one of your friends wants to date your ex? Would you have a problem with that or not? Why/why not?

Blind post here:
I don't have a problem with it at all... it would just be a little weird to think of my BFF having her lips where mine have been

 

[IreneAdler]

The dating code that is.

Say you date someone, and then you guys break up. Is it wrong if one of your friends wants to date your ex? Would you have a problem with that or not? Why/why not?

I think it depends: the length of the relationship, the commitment level, the reason for the break up... stuff like that

if this was the love of my life - um, no, it's not ok
if we had been engaged - um, no, it's not ok
if he beat me and I dumped him - I don't want my friend in that

if he was boring as a rock but they got along, why not
if we dated for three weeks, why not
if we just didn't have chemistry, sure

 

[Blank123]

if it was immediately after the breakup and she knew I still had feelings for him, I would be deeply hurt by that.

At this point with my ex... its been nearly two years since our breakup and if he and one of my friends decided to date I'd be alright with it. I'd just be concerned because I honestly don't think he'd be a good match for my friends that know him Otherwise, I'd just wish them the best and be happy for them.

 

[Obzocky]

I don't have an issue with it, my assumption is nearly always that we broke up because we were incompatible so why should I stop them from exploring a possibility.

 

[Tamara224]

My personal code is not to be invovled with any guy a friend dated OR had a serious crush on. Friendship comes first. Or hoes before bros

:o I know, I'm a downer but.... do we really call each other "hoes" now?

Maybe "sisters before misters."

 

[IreneAdler]

I agree. I am not gardening equipment (I am not that skinny )

 

[Rose of Eden]

:o I know, I'm a downer but.... do we really call each other "hoes" now?

Maybe "sisters before misters."

You know, I agree with you about the whole "hoes" thing. I actually always heard "chicks before....well yeah, you know" but I like "sisters before misters!" Haven't heard that one!

 

[Im_A]

I'll add...None of my exes are close to me. It is great. They are far away. My friends are either married, engaged or not in this state and the ones in this state are either older, and engaged or with someone. So its an issue that no matter how I answer, the issue is really moot for me.

 

[Tamara224]

You know, I agree with you about the whole "hoes" thing. I actually always heard "chicks before....well yeah, you know" but I like "sisters before misters!" Haven't heard that one!

Hicks?

 

[Amber.ly]

:o I know, I'm a downer but.... do we really call each other "hoes" now?

Maybe "sisters before misters."

Well, if you were my sister, you would not only get called that but you would call me a term of endearment that rhymes with witch

We're close enough to insult with love, my sisters and I.

But I admit, I don't go around calling all girls potentially derogatory words. So sisters before misters works. Or chicks before hicks

 

[Tamara224]

I work with two ladies who are BFFs and they call each other those two words. I always shake my head and

 

[LadyOfMystery]

and also Im not sure about it being CF Rule appropriate, lol.

But -anyway- getting back on topic. I think that if I had a boyfriend and broke up with him after a week for whatever reason and say another friend of mine wantedto date him, I honestly dont forsee an issue with that because he obviously wasn't meant to be for me

 

[PinkSweetart]

Y'all can read my brainzzzzz! I was watching *ahem* The Disney Channel P) and I heard the term "Pals before gals", and I tried to sit down and think of one to use with girl friends, but nothing was coming to mind. Well, nothing other than the gardening tool one.

I just had to say that.