I will try to be as unbiased and straight to the point that I can:
- I'm not necessarily happy with our marriage. I'm willing to put in effort and compromise to make it work.
-My wife will tell me plainly that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, but won't file paperwork for a reason unknown to me.
-Her feeling manifest in hostility to me (hurtful and demeaning comments, aggressiveness, ect)
-I try daily to be nice to her. I make her lunches and leave notes and try to make her feel special.
-I now really can't speak at length with her because she is trying to convince me I'm just as miserable as she is.
I know I still must handle situations correctly even when she "argues dirty". It's just getting exhausting. What would help me the most is some coping strategies for when she gets verbally aggressive with me and tries to convolute what I say to fit her opinion, that "I'm just as unhappy as she is". I feel like I'm being bated into it very often and am at a loss when this goes on. I don't want to outright ignore her as that's rude, but I don't know what to say whenever she is actively trying to find a crease in whatever I say to "confirm" her thoughts.
Thank you for your time.
- I'm not necessarily happy with our marriage. I'm willing to put in effort and compromise to make it work.
-My wife will tell me plainly that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, but won't file paperwork for a reason unknown to me.
-Her feeling manifest in hostility to me (hurtful and demeaning comments, aggressiveness, ect)
-I try daily to be nice to her. I make her lunches and leave notes and try to make her feel special.
-I now really can't speak at length with her because she is trying to convince me I'm just as miserable as she is.
I know I still must handle situations correctly even when she "argues dirty". It's just getting exhausting. What would help me the most is some coping strategies for when she gets verbally aggressive with me and tries to convolute what I say to fit her opinion, that "I'm just as unhappy as she is". I feel like I'm being bated into it very often and am at a loss when this goes on. I don't want to outright ignore her as that's rude, but I don't know what to say whenever she is actively trying to find a crease in whatever I say to "confirm" her thoughts.
Thank you for your time.