Standstill

[enelya_taralom]

Anyone else feel like their life is on standstill? I've felt that way about mine for the past four years... in that time all I've done is move out of my parent's house. Otherwise, my life has been the same... then I think of the people I was friends with four years ago and most are dating, have their careers, are married, have children... feels like their life has been progressing, they've been growing up and going places and well, it feels like as they get closer and closer to eachother in their adult lives I get slowly and slowly squeezed out until eventually night after night, weekend after weekend I'm home alone, and my friends just keep on getting younger and younger...

 

[peacechild4]

Yes I do.. but the funny thing is.. every time I struggle with this place.. GOD shows me what I have gained through it.. and I am able to rest again.. seems to be a purpose in every stage... even this..

 

[Thunder Peel]

Yeah, I'm there. I'm the only member of my family and friends who isn't successful, rich, married, or doing something amazing.

One thing that really has helped me is closing myself off from a lot of those people. The less family and friends I talk to the better I feel. I'm not suggesting becoming a hermit but I've found that the more I ignore or cut out the competition the easier it is to avoid those bad feelings.

 

[Sapphyre]

Yes I do.. but the funny thing is.. every time I struggle with this place.. GOD shows me what I have gained through it.. and I am able to rest again.. seems to be a purpose in every stage... even this..

This is all true. I've found that the times we feel the most confused and stuck are the times God grows us and prepares us for the next stage of life. It's so hard not being able to see how that's all happening while you're in it, though. I'm sorta there now. :\

 

[er72]

Anyone else feel like their life is on standstill? I've felt that way about mine for the past four years... in that time all I've done is move out of my parent's house. Otherwise, my life has been the same... then I think of the people I was friends with four years ago and most are dating, have their careers, are married, have children... feels like their life has been progressing, they've been growing up and going places and well, it feels like as they get closer and closer to eachother in their adult lives I get slowly and slowly squeezed out until eventually night after night, weekend after weekend I'm home alone, and my friends just keep on getting younger and younger...

Same here especially the boldened parts.

Life is definitely passing me by.

 

[anewday]

I feel the same way. You are not alone . Give it all to God and he will help you .

 

[Ukrainia]

Yep, that's how I feel. Praying and working hard will go a long way to changing that.

 

[HazelWings]

Anyone else feel like their life is on standstill? I've felt that way about mine for the past four years... in that time all I've done is move out of my parent's house. Otherwise, my life has been the same... then I think of the people I was friends with four years ago and most are dating, have their careers, are married, have children... feels like their life has been progressing, they've been growing up and going places and well, it feels like as they get closer and closer to eachother in their adult lives I get slowly and slowly squeezed out until eventually night after night, weekend after weekend I'm home alone, and my friends just keep on getting younger and younger...

Definitely can relate!

 

[hana14]

Yes I do.. but the funny thing is.. every time I struggle with this place.. GOD shows me what I have gained through it.. and I am able to rest again.. seems to be a purpose in every stage... even this..

Yes, I agree with this. There's a reason I'm where I'm at today

 

[IDKFA]

At the moment, yes, but I still keep on truckin' so to speak and go on with life every day.

 

[Mydnyte]

That's exactly how I've felt for a while now.

 

[Gym]

sometimes I feel that way.. but here soon I'll be making a VERY big move and I'm sure I'll be wanting the standstill with the chaos to come.. lol

 

[Shadolus]

sometimes I feel that way.. but here soon I'll be making a VERY big move and I'm sure I'll be wanting the standstill with the chaos to come.. lol

Haha you make a VERY good point. Not saying that moving forward or change isn't good (and not that I believe change doesn't entirely happen while we feel like we're waiting) but when we do move into that period in our lives where there's massive uncertainty or new things happening it can easily cause stress in its own way. For instance, getting into a relationship is great and all and most of us would love to be in one, but that entails it's own problems. Forget having all that alone time to reflect and relax haha... just sayin.

 

[Gym]

Haha you make a VERY good point. Not saying that moving forward or change isn't good (and not that I believe change doesn't entirely happen while we feel like we're waiting) but when we do move into that period in our lives where there's massive uncertainty or new things happening it can easily cause stress in its own way. For instance, getting into a relationship is great and all and most of us would love to be in one, but that entails it's own problems. Forget having all that alone time to reflect and relax haha... just sayin.

You know what though? I'd given all the alone time I have to have that special someone. there'ssomething about it that's just awesome!
I'm thinking though that due to an absolutely chaotic time after this move I should just take things slow. With not knowing anyone in what will be my new locale things will be chaotic.. but sometimes change is for the better! And with all this chaos means life is definately NOT at a standstill! lol

 

[Shadolus]

You know what though? I'd given all the alone time I have to have that special someone. there'ssomething about it that's just awesome!
I'm thinking though that due to an absolutely chaotic time after this move I should just take things slow. With not knowing anyone in what will be my new locale things will be chaotic.. but sometimes change is for the better! And with all this chaos means life is definately NOT at a standstill! lol

I hear yah, and totally agree. I just feel that many people think that change is the cure all. Not that any posts here made me think that of them. Trust me I understand, and am in a somewhat similar position, at least with the girlfriend part. But there's much to be said of not taking advantage of that stand still time.

Also, good luck with your move. I noticed you live in Russia. Are you moving with in your country to a different town or somewhere foreign?

 

[Gym]

I hear yah, and totally agree. I just feel that many people think that change is the cure all. Not that any posts here made me think that of them. Trust me I understand, and am in a somewhat similar position, at least with the girlfriend part. But there's much to be said of not taking advantage of that stand still time.

Also, good luck with your move. I noticed you live in Russia. Are you moving with in your country to a different town or somewhere foreign?

Actually.. I'm a Russian living in the USA...
I'll be moving inside the USA.. but must cross a foreign country to get there...so kinda foreign? lol

 

[Shadolus]

Actually.. I'm a Russian living in the USA...
I'll be moving inside the USA.. but must cross a foreign country to get there...so kinda foreign? lol

Haha nice. Well if you're flying over West Virginia they'd be considered a foreign country... Pssst they're different.

 

[Gym]

Haha nice. Well if you're flying over West Virginia they'd be considered a foreign country... Pssst they're different.

lol.. I'll be going over an ACTUAL foreign country..

 

[TheOliveSeed]

Yup x10.
But I just try to keep in mind that everyone's path is different and not compare myself to others.