eZoolander,
I went to visit an aunt today. We showed me pictures of her granddaughters who I remember being little girls about three and four. I probably saw them in their tween years at a reunion. She had pictures of them with their husbands, but both were prom pictures. They'd each gone to their proms with their future husbands, and both had families and children. They live in a little southern town of about 8,000. I wonder if this kind of thing happens more in small towns where there aren't a lot of other potential mates to choose from.
Could very well be.
About 10 years ago my wife and I decided we wanted a change of pace. We were both from big cities, and we wanted to try something different. So we bought a house in a very rural area of North Carolina. Full time population of the city was like 700 (although there was a larger snowbird population), and the county was somewhere around 18,000.
Small city life was definitely interesting...and in a lot of ways very much what you're describing about it being obvious people have a lack of good options.
One girl that I always think of was the girl that cut our hair. She was nice enough - and we had pleasant conversations. Our conversations often went along the lines of:
(Heavy drawl) - Do you watch the God channel?
Me: Can't say I do.
Her: It's sooooo fascinating. You know, you and your wife are always welcome at our church.
Me: That's very kind of you, thank you for the invitation.
etc...etc.
Well, one day I noticed the pics she had up of her, her husband and her kids. So I complimented the kids. She then proceeded to tell all about her marriage, how they'd met, etc...
and that her husband was her best friend's ex-husband.
Wasn't my place to ask more questions - but gotta admit the thought crossed my mind "Wow your options must be really limited if you, miss God Channel watching churchgoer are married to your best friend's ex hubby."
Then there were other little weird things about small town living.
Like, we had a miscarriage while we were living up there. Not really something I talk about - but the result of it is something that kinda parlays into my impression of small towns... When she was being seen by the doctor, as part of the screening process, they had to give her a bunch of questions (I guess to find out her risk of exposure to various diseases/etc).
Among the questions were things like:
Have you ever accepted money for sex?
Have you ever had sex with an intravenous drug user?
Has your husband ever accepted money for homosexual sex?
Has your husband ever engaged in homosexual sex?
etc..etc...etc.
She was taken aback a little bit by just how seemingly off the wall and unbelievable those questions were...so she asked the nurse "Does anyone ever say 'yes' to those questions in a town like this?"
Nurse's reply..."You'd be surprised."
Apparently those little towns are cesspools of debauchery - even smack dab in the middle of the Bible Belt. lol