Someone help me

[mebby02]

Hi everyone my husband and I have a great marriage
We get a along so well. The problem is my mom and sis aren't.
My sister got along as kids well when she got older she
Is nothing but rude to me telling me she finds ways for us
To break us up and calls me horrible names.
I tell her how it hurts me she laughed wow oh my
Gosh you take everything so personally. Your way too
Sensitive. We both work together but different departments
My parents are moving away soon she will
Have no one she says we better see her or she will
Smash my husbands head in with a rock and push me
Down a cliff I say no your not nice to me. She says your dead to me now
Do you think it's right I don't want to see her.
I don't want to be hurt all my life she acts just
Like my mom. Who physically abused me and mentally abused me. Do you think it's wrong I don't want to see her Someone
Please help me

 

[mourningdove~]

Hi everyone my husband and I have a great marriage
We get a along so well. The problem is my mom and sis aren't.
My sister got along as kids well when she got older she
Is nothing but rude to me telling me she finds ways for us
To break us up and calls me horrible names.
I tell her how it hurts me she laughed wow oh my
Gosh you take everything so personally. Your way too
Sensitive. We both work together but different departments
My parents are moving away soon she will
Have no one she says we better see her or she will
Smash my husbands head in with a rock and push me
Down a cliff I say no your not nice to me. She says your dead to me now
Do you think it's right I don't want to see her.
I don't want to be hurt all my life she acts just
Like my mom. Who physically abused me and mentally abused me. Do you think it's wrong I don't want to see her Someone
Please help me

I think it's healthy for you not to want to see your abusive sister.

Sometimes with abusive family members we do need to set boundaries and limit our contact with them in order to protect ourselves and our loved ones. Your situation sounds like one of those kind of situations.

If we are a caring, loving kind of person, we can sometimes feel guilty for doing the things we need to do in order to protect ourselves and our loved ones (like our husbands) from an abusive person, but since it isn't wrong for someone to want to protect him or herself from an abuser then that kind of guilty feeling is 'false' and not a 'true' guilt feeling from God.

Once we understand our feelings of guilt and recognize those that are false, we can choose to reject those false guilty feelings and pray to ask God for the courage and faith to do the healthy things we need to do in order to protect ourselves and loved ones.

... And when we pray and ask God for His help, He helps us.

Praying for you today, and for your situation.
God bless.

 

[Johnnz]

No need for any twinges of conscience. It's so hard having a situation like that. But we must be realistic. In reality there is no mutual relationship; she has acted in ways that are destructive.

Don't get bitter. You may also need to take more drastic actions if her threats continue.

John
NZ

 

[Kristin E]

Yea I definitely would cut all ties, this is definitely abuse and you don't deserve that in your life.
I suffered from abuse by the hands of my oh so loving narcissistic grandmother... one day I got tired of it, and cut her off, it was the BEST decision I ever made.

 

[slateblue]

dont let yourself feel guilty. Thats a devil trap. you will be doing the right thing to step back. Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself. Too often we forget the 'as yourself' part. Love yourself.

 

[rambot]

If you have told your sister how what she does and says hurts you, walk away. You have a wonderful new family to begin and put your focus towards. They will treasure you EVERY SINGLE DAY. Keep your focus on them all the time.

 

[well hey]

im sorry

 

[slateblue]

I am so sorry you are going through this and I feel for you. I can say this with confidence becuase my sister is exactly the same way. Your sister is abusive, controlling, mean, evil and a manipulator. YOu dont need her (at least for right now) she has broken your trust. And you do not deserve this anxiety, fear and abuse. Just live with your husband and be happy. I know its hard becuase you want to be with your sister and for her to act right. But you have to step back. Know that you are not alone. This is my situation too. Your sister probably has abandonement issues. I know you are probably bitter towards her and angry but please pray for her from your heart. And put up those limits. Im sorry