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socializing at church

Discussion in 'Anxiety, Panic & Agoraphobia' started by janny108, Dec 6, 2009.

  1. janny108

    janny108 Well-Known Member

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    When you see ppl socializing at church when it's over, and you see them in 2's or 3's do you join one of them or leave, etc.? I hesitate to this because of they might be talking about something specific which I have no real part in.
     
  2. RuthD

    RuthD Forgiveness is so important. Supporter

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    I think I would walk up to a lady who is alone and talk to her. That's just because I don't feel like getting involved with a man at the moment. I would start out slow with talking to one person first then maybe 2 and so on. I don't think they would mind if you joined them. You could introduce yourself to them maybe. Just my 2 cents.
     
  3. Amhacajo

    Amhacajo Turn worry into wonder...

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    *sigh* This is exactly the part of church that I really don't like. Talking to anyone new is so painstaking that I usually stick with the 'safe' people. I have really lapsed in working on this one.
     
  4. janny108

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    I think a lot of times when I observe ppl talking they are talking either about ministry things I may not be part of or length of time they've known each other.
    I had car trouble last Sun and someone took me home and we had a nice chat in the car. I did not really have the opp to talk to anyone else.
     
  5. AngelicRose

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    I can barely go to Mass without shaking--- if I'm not with someone I know I'm horribly anxious. Now that I've been attending church with my boyfriend, I feel soo much better. It's so odd and I'm not sure why I'm like this.

    Around September my anxiety went away for about 2-3 months and now recently it's back full swing. I'm usually okay when I'm around my bf but since I work full-time its not like I can always be around him. I know he's like my security blanket :)

    Anyways, at church I'll say hello to the priest and that's about it. I've started praying the Rosary to calm myself and not have to worry about chatting with a stranger. I hate the idea of talking to a stranger because I grew up with a lisp and even though I don't really have it any more, I over concentrate on how I pronounce words.

    Now that I have Sean (my bf) with me, I find myself wanting to do more at the church. My goal for this month is to go down to the fellowship hall after Mass when we have a monthly get-to-together with coffee and snacks. Something small, but big for me :)