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Singles are Sexually Frustrated

Discussion in 'Singles (only*)' started by brb1207, Dec 5, 2005.

  1. Highland Watchman

    Highland Watchman Keeping watch from my ebony tower

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    I don't know about that. I think the only way to effectively remove the "temptation" if you will (the desire for sex), is to either completely isolate yourself from the rest of humanity from early childhood (and never seek out the company of anyone, especially of the opposite gender... the term for this being "bush eye", which means that you've been in the wilderness too long that you go after the first one you see), or to castrate yourself and become a eunoch. :eek: Beyond that, I think the desire is pretty much there to stay... Now, whether God takes that desire and lessens it upon telling you that you are meant to remain single, or if he brings you to someone who is going in the same direction in life, that's really another matter. Ultimately, I think everyone here is trying to make sense of our singleness from where we are at, and the issue of sexuality is one of those core issues of humanity.
     
  2. Sketcher

    Sketcher Born Imperishable

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    Being as sinful desires come from the heart rather than the genitals, castration wouldn't work.

    "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander." - Matthew 15:19
     
  3. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 Monty Python!

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    You said it my friend
    It comes from the heart and soul
    And then from the mouth and bodies.
     
  4. Johnnz

    Johnnz Senior Veteran Supporter

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    There have been several very honest and frank posts on this thread.

    Has anyone benefited from the discussion?

    If a church was planning to address these issues what would you want to be included?

    John

    NZ
     
  5. NicelyAged

    NicelyAged New Member

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    Thanks for the comments JohnZ


    Yeah, a lot of great responses.

    This is just my view, but I believe the roots of this come from ancient church. By conditioning Christians (mainly the women) to associate sex with evil, this would help keep the women from having sex with anyone other than her husband. Yet we know prostitution abounded in those times and many of the men used these services. So what was accomplished was to create an environment where men secretly enjoyed multiple women sexual partners while keeping the women sexually "dumb". By keeping the women sexually dumb, whatever sex she had with her husband would be the only sex she knows and her view of what sex is would be determined by that. If it was bad sex, selfish, or whatever, the women wouldn't know the difference and be less likely to seek their sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
     
  6. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 Monty Python!

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    I would like to be included
    But just to show my opinion
    Which would be just that.
     
  7. AceHero

    AceHero Veteran

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    Allowed to have sex? Krill, I thought that the only pure form of sex in marriage was to do it in the name of procreation! :D
     
  8. vangelicmonk

    vangelicmonk Regular Member

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    I have to say at my age and as a Virgin there is frustration at the intimate level and at a personal level. I first fell in love a few years ago and the relationship didn't work out. I still miss her, but I am so glad that we never gave in to our temptations and we even didn't kiss because we decided before not to go there until marriage.

    Before I started courting her I had not kissed a girl in like 4 years and before that it was about another 4 years. What I remember most was that this last girl is I really cared about her and loved her and just the fact that I held her hand was such a joy for me. It wasn't something that was sexual, but it was intimate. I didn't want to stop holding her hand. Even hugging wasn't as great as just the joy of holding her hand and looking into her eyes. I miss that and I miss the great conversations. I am very careful now who I seek to court. I have ignored Christian and unchristian women who have showed interest because I didn't see anything with them and I'm really seeking God on showing me who is the one. Its not easy.
     
  9. vangelicmonk

    vangelicmonk Regular Member

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    I have to say at my age and as a Virgin there is frustration at the intimate level and at a personal level. I first fell in love a few years ago and the relationship didn't work out. I still miss her, but I am so glad that we never gave in to our temptations and we even didn't kiss because we decided before not to go there until marriage.

    Before I started courting her I had not kissed a girl in like 4 years and before that it was about another 4 years. What I remember most was that this last girl is I really cared about her and loved her and just the fact that I held her hand was such a joy for me. It wasn't something that was sexual, but it was intimate. I didn't want to stop holding her hand. Even hugging wasn't as great as just the joy of holding her hand and looking into her eyes. I miss that and I miss the great conversations. I am very careful now who I seek to court. I have ignored Christian and unchristian women who have showed interest because I didn't see anything with them and I'm really seeking God on showing me who is the one. Its not easy.
     
  10. covenantwmn

    covenantwmn Contributor

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    Sheesh, i've been divorced forever, and frustrated??? DUH!!!! I still love God and He is everything to me. Doesn't mean i've forgotten Him or would do anything stupid when things get tough in this area. Blessings all.
    in Him, Leslie
     
  11. GQ Chris

    GQ Chris Beer and Glory

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    Being sexually frustrated is yet another way that the enemy can use to draw believers away from God. Trust that God will provide and in his timing it will come to pass.
     
  12. Miles

    Miles forever endeavour

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    As with most things, sexual frustration isn't a matter of bad or good in and of itself... rather, how we deal with it is. The enemy can even use contentment to lead believers away from God!

    Also, if marriage can be compared to God's relationship to the Church, what might we make of sexual frustration? A man who longs for a wife (and a woman who longs for a husband) might have stronger insight into how God feels about people who are separated from Him than a coupled person who is metaphorically fat & happy, or the person who distainfuly resigns him or herself to pseudo-indifference (not to be confused with those who are called to remain celibate, of course).
     
  13. septemberskies

    septemberskies You can find me on cloud no.9

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    Very interesting... makes alot of sense.
     
  14. JPPT1974

    JPPT1974 Monty Python!

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    Maybe we don't need sex
    In order to "kill time."
    We just need the Lord
    If you know what I mean.
     
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