you DO know that this life is short and that heaven is forever?
you seem to focus a lot on worldly concerns "what? I can not get married again, wow I would stay pagan"
forgiveness of sins and friendship with God is more important then a second marriage
people seem to forget this
I've never liked the "carrot-stick in the afterlife" model of religion. It seems like conversations sometimes go like this:
"Here's some good news, you can't do stuff you want to do!"
"That doesn't sound like good news at all."
"Well, if you don't not do it, you're going straight to hell."
"Okay, now that just sounds like
really bad news."
As a hypothetical, I picture myself as God and say, "Would
I, a lowly finite human with ethical faults, as we all have, do something as horrible as sentence people to be tortured by being burned alive in hell for all eternity?" and I have to say that, no, I wouldn't. Even when it comes to my worst enemies or the worst people who've ever lived, like Hitler, I at the very most would favor some sort of lesser finite punishment and then either purify them and bring them to heaven or, if they didn't want that, offer them their own sort of limbo like state free of physical pain where they could live in a fake world of their choosing kind of like a Star Trek holodeck. And if I couldn't do either of those things, I'd let them just die when they die here on earth and not be revived rather than let them fall into hell to be tortured for all eternity. Of course, in this hypothetical, being God, I'm supposed to be omnipotent, so I don't see why within the hypothetical I would even have restrictions. I don't see why God would have restrictions- if he's got restrictions, he's not omnipotent.
So, with this model of a God who revived dead people just to torture them or allow them to be tortured for all eternity in hell for perceived transgressions in finite lifetimes that can be as simple as "obstinately" rejecting God (but leading a good life) or stubbornly refusing to go to mass, I just think, whoa, that God is less ethically advanced than me. Why would I worship that being?
Moreover, if God wants to send me to hell and that's where I'm supposed to be, that is where I will be. All these qualities we call nurture and nature, and perhaps the eternal soul, ultimately are things that God has made or allowed to happen, and I think they cumulatively play out like a script and dictate who we were, who we are, and who will be become. He knew it before we were formed. So, it is what it is. If I'm going to hell, I'm going to hell.
I guess I just have to hope that God is more loving, merciful, and ethically advanced than he's often made out to be.
In any event, the whole second marriage thing is *really* hypothetical for me, almost as much so as the hypothetical putting myself in the shoes of God.
I spent a decade trying very hard to find a first wife and couldn't, and had to eventually tone it down when I found my options really drying up (Not that I had a lot of options before, I had to work very hard to find dates and girlfriends- very hard) and my personality being more formed and thus more particular about who I thought would be a good fit. I'm still theoretically open to whatever might present itself, but I'd be very surprised if I wound up with a first marriage, let alone a second. But I'd like to think if I were someone else, someone who did get married, and then had his wife cheated on him, walk out, civilly divorce, and marry another man, that if a second love of my life came along, I could marry her if she was willing. I don't see myself as ever being in that situation, but I try to think of what is fair and just for others, and I think they should have a chance to pursue happiness and have companionship.