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Cherub8 said:In my view, that is the only Biblical way to initiate. (Consider Jacob, Leah, Rachel, et al.) There are exceptions as Sascha pointed out, but the key point here is developing trust and respect between the suitor and the girl's parents. Eh, call me old fashioned.
Personally, I wouldn't even consider initiating before I know her parents. Again, there are exceptions, such as long distances, but for many practical reasons it's a general rule I'd try to follow.
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I understand and empathize with both sides of the issue, but in the case of initiating a relationship, I tend be a little more liberal. In large part, it just seems to be a dying custom. For instance, when was the last time you rose form your seat when a woman entered the room? At one time this was common courtesy, but it's now so little known and even more rarely observed that it's hardly expected by all but the most critical, or in the most formal of situations.
In addition to this, girls seem to find it very serious, which is often a bad thing; and while I agree that it's a personal problem, it still doesn't necessarily behoove oneself to go out of one's way to observe this custom. After all, making an awkward situation for the sole purpose of appeasing one's own traditions seems a tad bit selfish, doesn't it?
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